Why would your close female friend ask you not to contact her for awhile? Serious answers only please!!ADVICE?

Question

Everything was fine the week before, we were in touch as usual (we usually txt each other everyday) and we're very close. She txt saying how she couldn't even touch another bloke when she went clubbing on Saturday. Said she didn't know what was going on with herself. When I asked her to meet up this evening for a quick drink she said no. Then she said she wasn't sure when we'd meet again and that she'll get in touch. I asked what the matter was, she told me that she's got a lot on her mind and don’t want me to contact her. We didn't argue or fall out over anything.

What’s going on with her? This has really surprised me!

Advice greatly appreciated

P.s. thought this might help. We have kissed once, but she decided just to remain friends (I respected her decision and we've remained close friends). Everytime I mention a girl that I'm interested in she changes the subject straight away and does not seem comfortable with me telling her who I'm interested in (no dirty/sexual info). Also she always tells me that she’s not after any other blokes or that she didn’t pull anyone when she goes out.

She's told me that the problem is NOT about another bloke-she’s made that quite clear to me.

I'm male. Couldn't touch a bloke e.g. didnt want to chat anyone up/find anyone attractive/good enough (she's not gay-(trust me) from our conversations.

Answer 1

women are a funny species (being one myself) and i have to say that it sounds to me like she probably does fancy you and probably does have feelings for you but i would bet my life on it that it wouldnt work out between you.

i reckon its a case of she doesnt really want to be with you but she doesnt want anyone else to be with you either.

if you like her as more than a friend, the best advice that i can give to you is to give her the cold shoulder for a while (you would only be doing what she wants anyway) and i bet you she will realise what she has lost and will come running - but i still think that you should avoid a relationship with this girl - like i said, we are a funny species and she sounds like she doesnt really know what she wants. leave it a few years.

Answer 2

I think the kiss has confused her. I mean if she'd only gone out with guys before and now you've both kissed, you've thrown her world upside down and she probably needs some space from you to sort her head out.

So give her a week and then send her a text, the best thing you can do right now is to respect her wishes otherwise the friendship will be over for good.

Answer 3

Sir,

This is just very complicated. I think it would be better to write her a letter putting the ball in her court and telling her how you truly feel rather than all this confusion. Truth has to be better, everything out in the open xx If she really doesn't want your friendship then at least this way you can move on. If she wants more then ask her to make clear her feelings.

Answer 4

There can only be one thing is that she has mixed feelings for you and that she needs time to decide what she really wants.
There are one of two things that you could do is to give her the time that she needs and just text once a week to check that she is OK or confess your love to her and see what happens.
Maybe the question should be do i have feels for her and would i like to take it further.
This appears to be a make or break relationship, i hope both of you can come to an agreement that works for both of you.

Answer 5

I would just give her the space that she is asking for. To the sounds of it, it really sounds as thou she is really confused in what she wants to do right now.
If you give her the space than she might realise that she misses you and she will come and find you herself.
If she does not than i really think that you should move on with your life and make some new friends, you never know you may meet that special someone in your life
good luck

Answer 6

I think she just needs some space to sort her head out. It could be that she is unsure about her feelings for you and having contact with you isn't helping, you could just ask if it is about you. However it could be something else entirely, maybe something has happened to her - why could she not touch a bloke?

Answer 7

Sounds to me like she is confused - she she's you happy and secure in your sexuality and she's questioning her feelings for you and in general.

I would say respect her decision for at least a few days and then if she hasn't been in touch then contact her again but in a gentle way - just say that you are very worried about her and it's fine if she doesn't want to talk to you but hope she is talking to someone.

Answer 8

I think she's confused about how she feels about you, and is asking for a 'time out'. So I think you'll be happy if you can be patient with her. Perhaps you could phone her in a few weeks and just ask her how she's doing. Otherwise, she'll get back in touch when she wants to talk to you.

Answer 9

Go round and see her. She might be feeling a bit depressed, be her friend. If any of my friends were acting out of sorts i would be over there like a flash!! could be something or nothing but your not going to find out by asking the general public, are you.. good luck

Answer 10

ok, I'd say, she's in love with you!
Why? I'll tell you, coz I'm a grl:
1)When she says she doesn't want you to contact her, it means that it was a mistake for her to say that your just friends, and that kiss meant alot to her.
2)When she says she's not seing any other ppl, she means: make your move and sweep me off my feet!
3)When she says she's got alot on her mind, this "alot" is you, and she's trying to get over you coz she told you to remain friends.
So I'd say, go and retrieve her, and if you love her, be honest, and stay honest. And I hope you the best, and I hope that my answer was good enough and helped you.