I'VE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 2 1/2 YEARS NOW AND I CANT GET HIS BABY MAMA TO MOVE ON AND GET THE PICTURE THAT HE AINT COMIN BACK. I'VE BEEN TRYIN TO HANDLE THIS AS MATURE AS POSSIBLE BUT ITS WORKIN MY NERVES. SHE KNOWS ALL ABOUT ME AND THAT WE LIVE TOGETHER AND SHE STILL CALL OVER TO HIS MA'S TELLIN HER TO GET THEM BACK TOGETHER AROUND THE HOLIDAYS SHE STAY OVER HIS MA'S ALL DAY AND HIS MOTHER TOLD HIM HE BETTER NOT BRING ME OVER THERE THEY NEED FAMILY TIME AND I'M NOT PART OF THERE FAMILY. SHE ALWAYS SEE US TOGETHER OR SEE HIM DRIVIN MY CAR SHE LIKE TO CALL HIS CELL PHONE ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT TALKIN BOUT SHE JUST WANNA TALK SHE MISS HIM AND WHEN THEY GETTIN BACK TOGETHER. HE ALWAYS TELL HER HE GOT A WOMAN ALREADY BUT SHE DON'T CARE ITS MAKIN ME NOT TRUST HIM NOW AND GOT ME THINKIN HE MIGHT STILL BE MESSIN AROUND WIT HER WHAT SHOULD I DO I LOVE HIM AND THIS IS REALLY MESSIN WIT MY HEAD NOW. I DONT EVEN TRUST HIM TO GO PICK HIS DAUGHTER UP ANYMORE. HELP?
2006-10-24 02:57:49 · 18 answers · asked by Princess Nykki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he tells her all the time about me she's met me before he takes care of his child and she comes over or house 2 weeks out of every month they alternate weeks so he definetly is takin care of business. the baby loves me he said her ma said i'm all she talk about. i just cant get the baby mama to understand she need to move on he aint comin back
2006-10-24 03:13:51 · update #1
his family wont except me because i'm white. i've tried so hard to get them to like me i do everything for him his ma is comin around a little but she still a snake i dont trust her to get to close to me. i didnt steal him we were friends and one thing led to another we really enjoyed each others company and had fun wit each other they weren't together then she had just had the baby and wanted to see other men now she want him back cuz she know aint nobody gon take care of her lazy *** the baby will be 3 and she aint had a job since she was born she said aint nobody hirin.
2006-10-24 03:23:55 · update #2
I'm still dealing baby mama drama after being with my husband for 4 years and married for 3. From my experience there is nothing that YOU can do to alleviate the situation. It is up to HIM to dissolve the situation. As long as he is letting HER know his heart is with you, in front of you and with her, all you can do is trust him until he gives you a reason not to and then handle it accordingly. Just think.... She will try anything to make him leave you and are you willing to give her that satisfaction??
2006-10-24 03:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How far long is she? Not that it really matters, what does is that you were ready to spend the rest of your life with someone after only 6 months and now are crying upset because you've found out something about him that doesn't fit into your plans. If you were so ready to make a lifetime commitment to the man, you should be ready to stand by your man thru the drama of dealing with the mother of his child. (And who's to say there will be drama as long as he stays current on his child support. Or better yet, why not postpone the wedding and get to know your partner..and his past...a little better. Now back to how far along is she? Did she just confront him that she's 6, 7, or 8 months pregnant or about to drop any day now or has he known for a while and just now getting around to telling you? The former means that there may be other "little" things your future husband is keeping from you! As for the baby mama drama...have your fiance contact an attorney to establish first paternity, then if necessary his parental rights, to set up visitation and child support payments. For you, If you decide to go ahead with the wedding, don't let your income be included with his - keep separate bank accounts, file married filing separate tax forms, but be prepared to help him with his baby.
2016-03-28 06:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy really loves you,the ex shouldn't be an issue.He needs to let her
know he will always be there for the child and that is it.You need to keep acting like a classy lady and just keep your distance from her.Just be good
to the child,it's not the baby's fault.Some guys get a thrill out of stringing two
women along.Maybe if he sees this is not a big deal for you anymore,he'll
snap out of it and set her straight.When she calls it should only be about the
child and if it's something else he should say that he can't talk about this with
her anymore and just hang up or let voice mail answer it and then just listen
to the message to make sure the child is ok.If she tries sneaky tricks maybe
the child shouldn't be in her home if she is that unstable.Sounds like he needs to decide because if he loved you he could see that this is hurting you
and he would put a stop to it.Trust is not an issue when you are truly in love
and if you have doubts about what's up that's a good sign something probably
is up.You know what they say,if you are thinking it,it's probably because it is.
2006-10-24 03:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by venture1517 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might still be messing with her you never know, and if his family wants them back together it might be even harder to her to let go ecspecially if they are messing around. Or she may just be a psycho. Maybe you can consider following him or have someone you trust do it. Hey take him on the Maury show they always have that stuff on the show to find out for sure. But unfourtunatley this relationship isnt going to last you dont trust him and shes a spaz. But what about the child? How is she handleing the situation because she comes first not you your man or the mama.
2006-10-24 03:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by littlemama 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You knew about the baby & baby mama when you got involved right? Sit back and let Daddy do what is right for his child. What would make you not trust him? What has he done? Would you rather have a man that turns his back on his responsibility to his child? I hope not.
2006-10-24 03:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by Robyn C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need his family to accept you thats not fair for them to block you out like that, unless youve done something to deserve like did you steal him from her, do you try communicating with the family? do you give him everything that he needs, after 2 and a half years and this is still going on id be worried to trust me. somethings not right there, just take up all of his time make plans with him to take his child to chuckee cheeses youd be surprised how much fun youll have just get more involved in his life and if all else fails whoop her ***!! or i say pack up and move away take him with you.
your better then this situation
2006-10-24 03:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definately know what your going through. And the worst part about it is that you can't tell him not to see her cuz since she's got his kid that's not a option. The best I can tell you is unless this guy is treating you good and everything else is okay in the relationship, leave him. Some people aren't worth the trouble.
2006-10-24 03:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by XxXSheVampXxX 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately you chose a man with bagage. . he has a child with this woman and forever will she be apart of his life. . he needs to talk to her if he is serious about your relationship . . his mother is being unrealistic if she doesn't want him to bring you to the holiday celibration . . it should be a time of joyous celibration a time for both family and friends . . all of you should let bygones be for the holidays pick up the feud after new years day
2006-10-24 03:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Rainy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you knew he had a small child with a woman whom he was still in love with, that should have been a red flag to you. It's not her you need to be concerned with, it's him. If he's cheating on you with her, take it up with HIM, not her. She can't force him to do anything he doesn't want to do. She has a child with him. She will always be in his life. You are stuck with her as long as you are with him. Is that what you want?
2006-10-24 03:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lanani 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound so immature. That little baby needs her father. If he wants to get back together to have a real family for the baby you need to let him. You need to grow up.
2006-10-24 03:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋