I'm in a bad marriage. I have been seeing this great guy for the last couple of months. I don't want to spend a minute away from him, but how do I know if he feels the same way. He talks about him having kids but I don't think he realizes how I feel and doesn't tell me how he does. I think because I'm married. What do I do, I don't want to lose him to someone who is single.
2006-10-24 02:52:53 · 17 answers · asked by sassyone575 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sassy, been screwing around on your husband before? Or, just bored and want t little non-committment sex.
2006-10-24 02:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce, duh! Don't make excuses either, if you are that unhappy, then leave him for the other guy, but make sure he's what you want. Sometimes the grass is not always greener on the other side. He may not want a relationship with you, hence him not telling you how he feels. Remember this, most men do not want a woman who cheats on her husband. I have heard it from men who have cheated, that what kind of a woman do you think you will get if she cheats or cheats with you when you are married. I don't judge, so thats not what I am saying, just be prepared, it may not turn out the way you want it too! The relationship that you currently have, may be all that he wants.
2006-10-24 10:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all I can see why you have a bad marriage...cheating..why would you do that. If you were and are that unhappy why dont you leave and then pursue a life of your own. Its a shame that you are basically from the wording staying with your husband just in case this other guy doesnt want you. I know if I was him I wouldnt want you you are a cheat and there is NO EXCUSE for that!! If this guys smart he will go running for the hills. I pray that you dont have children involved in this mess.
2006-10-24 10:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey,
Ive been there my kids father was not that great and I left him for another man we got married my ex suffer a lot, and then he got married. and its been 6 years since that, now I know my new husband is worst then my ex was and I wish I can go back and I have regrets . you better be sure of what you want, some time the sex is better when is new, but after a while it all gets normal and and you realize , your ex was a better person and it a all about the sex is more of what kind of person he is if in several months he didnt tell you what his felling are maybe he anit that great. be sure of what your doing you might regret it, be honest to your self look with your eyes open . look at me I want to go back but my ex dont want me any more remember no ones perfect.
2006-10-24 10:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by nancy o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in a marriage then you have to deal with that first, If its bad and you dont see it getting any better then you need to get a divorce. Thats first and foremost... Deal with what you have before you go out and get soemthing new... If this guy is as close to you as it sounds he will help you threw the divorce, and if hes as interested in you as you hope he will keep himself single untill your threw the divorce and your avalible again. But dont go off and bear your heart untill you have put this bad marriage behind you, Its not fair to this new guy to have to deal with what ever drama your now husband could put on him if it was a affair... ya know :)
2006-10-24 09:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk with him be honest tell him that your married but also tell him that your in a bad marrige if u feel nothing for your husband in the bad marrige and more for the other guy i always say go with your heart, your heart knows what it wants listen to your heart and it will guide you in the right direction i hope that helps ^_^
2006-10-24 09:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by intrested 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to be judgmental but you maybe in a tough situation. You need to understand the reasons you are in this extra relationship. Also, you need to understand his reasons for the relationship with you.
I think for a single man to date married woman is the ultimate non-committal relations. Your attempts to be possessive with probably end that relationship.
2006-10-24 10:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Treebeard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart is deceitful above all things... Strong emotions, desires and aspirations are blinding. Forbidden fruit is often the sweetest.
Please consider seriously the consequences of your ultimate decision concerning this and may the grace of God be with you in the process.
2006-10-24 10:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rubopha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be doing this to your husband. This is exactly what is wrong with the world, no committment. What you are doing is wrong, and this guy for seeing you even though you are married tells me a lot about his character.
2006-10-24 09:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort your marriage out and leave then you will be free, however, are you just leaving to be with this guy and is your marriage as bad as you imagine!
2006-10-24 11:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because your realationship isnt the way you want it tobe now doesnt mean you cant work on it. All the enegry you've used thinking about the other guy, you should have spent thinking about your husband
2006-10-24 09:57:41 · answer #11 · answered by val l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋