My husband won't leave even though I've asked in so many ways?

Question

He's an a**. He doesn't understand that I don't want to be with him anymore. He comes home anytime he freakin wants to. I'm tired of putting up with him! How can I make him leave. I don't want to call the police. My mother lives with us too. I just want him out and want to start dating. Is it cheating if I do date and decide to have sex with someone I really like? I already told my husband I don't want a relationship with you! Damn it! Get up and out! NOW! Help

Answer 1

from a legal standpoint it is cheating, and the court would see it in his favor. getting him out is another story. i think if you want quick results get your brother to kick the s@#t out of him. i would do it for my sister and i have. sometimes a person responds better that way. restraining orders work but they are often violated. a good a%% kicking is the way to go.

Answer 2

It is adultery if your married..... But, it seems like you don't care. Have you been seeing someone else? Has the other person made the love for your husband sway. If so, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. If not, then don't hide the fact that your seeing other people, that's a sure fire way to get him to catch the hint that you don't want him there. But, there is always a chance that he will think it's okay and start not hiding the fact that he's dating either! So be prepared. Also, is the mortgage in his name, if so he could be waiting for you to leave.

Answer 3

Your married. As long as your still legally married then yeah it would be cheating if your dating or sleeping with someone else its called adultery. You made a commitment to be with this man for the rest of your life. If you want to date you need to divorce him hes just not going to get out and leave. You should tell him why you want him to leave. To me it doesnt sound like hes being *** okay so he comes home whenever he wants to so what? Maybe your the one that needs to leave. Its house too so he is definteley not leaving. You have some serious talking and thinking to do about your marriage.

Answer 4

Yes, it is cheating and sounds to me like that is the reason for wanting him to leave... to be with the other man. If he's leaving and not coming home until whatever time he wants, change the locks on the door. Call the Sheriff's dept first and let them know what you are doing, then go to an attorney and have seperation papers drawn up. If you want him out, you can get him out.Good Luck, though!

Answer 5

Yes, it's definitely cheating until the bonds of marriage are broken. I just think he stays for lack of a place to go. If I was so set in my ways, as far as your husband is concerned, I would leave before I would put up with him . The house and settlement will be taken care of whether you stay in the home or not. File a restraining order against him, then he would have no choice but to leave. It gets tough, but where there's a will there's a way. I hope it works itself out.

Answer 6

Have you had the divorce papers delivered and the locks changed to the home or have moved out? Until you follow through then it really is words. Words are meaningless unless you follow through with actions. You can talk all you want but until you have all your ducks in a row and have physically moved on then your are making excuses for why things are working out. Have you sought counseling to work out your differences? It is still cheating if you are married and the papers have not gone through. Morally it is wrong if you are not honest with your spouse that you have moved on and are seeking other relationships outside of your marriage.

Use your actions in a constructive way. Use not only your voice but use logic and compassion to act.

Answer 7

Protect your own interest by seeking the advise of a lawyer and start divorce proceedings. There may be a legal aid society that will assist if money is an issue. Don't wait if this is what you really want....the judge will make decisions for him. Acting as if you are a single woman prior to actually getting a divorce will only hurt yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

get an attorney and file for divorce, if you don't want to be married to him anymore.
It is not fun being in a marriage that makes you miserable and if you don't want to be around the person. The faster you act on getting an attorney, th better it will be. You can get a restraining order if he is violent.
As for dating, it is up to you. A lot of people date while separated or going through a divorce. I personally would wait until the divorce is granted, but it is an individual choice...NOT what I would do. So, follow your own instincts on that one.

Answer 9

Legally, you can't make him leave, but you and your mother can leave. I think you've left a lot out of your story, sounds like you're interested in another man, and your husband probably senses this. You need to go before someone gets hurt, physically. And yes, it's cheating while you're both living together; get a divorce or a legal seperation.

Answer 10

Who owns the house? I would say when he leaves to go to work change the locks, then he won't be coming anymore. NO DON'T HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE ELSE YET. Like I tell my kids, clean up the first toy before you take out the second. If you care about someone else and want it to work with him don't jeopordize it by starting it during this chaos. Make sure one relationship is over and all cleaned up before you start another one. But get him out, whatever you need to do, even if you need to move out.

Answer 11

Well, if it is his home too, then why should he not be able to come home anytime he wants to? Nothing you listed above indicates that he is abusive, mean or anything like that, so why would you call the police? If you and/or your mother are in danger, then you need to leave and not depend on him to go, but you also need to call the police. If it is just because you no longer like him and do not want to be married, then you need to be the one to leave.