How do you get rid of a man who won't leave?

Question

I HAVE BEEN WITH THIS GUY FOR 12 YEARS AND WE JUST GOT MARRIED IN JULY. HE IS NEVER GOING TO BE RESPONSIBLE OR A GOOD FATHER FIGURE FOR MY GIRLS WHO ARE TEENS. I PAY ALL THE BILLS AND I FEEL HE IS JUST A MOOCHER. I HAVE HAD TO CREATE SITUATIONS THAT INVOLVED GETTING THE POLICE TO REMOVE AND YET IVE BEEN STUPID ENOUGH TO TAKE HIM BACK. I HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER MAN WHO IS CURRENTLY STILL MARRIED BUT WORKING ON DIVORCE AND ALL WE WANT IS TO BE TOGETHER. I AM 43 YEARS OLD AND LOOKING FOR GOOD SOUND ADVICE FROM OTHERS CLOSE INA GE WHO KNO HOW I FEEL. THANKS

Answer 1

Contact a lawyer and proceed with a divorce. Don't get caught messing around or you will drag it out for months, and maybe years longer. Be cordial but cold.

Answer 2

blame yourself, you knew exactly what you were getting into. Now your involved with a married man? How many homes must you break up?I have no sympathy for you at all. A good role model for your girls? Take a good look at your actions and ask yourself how that is affecting your kids. Ever here of Karma?

Answer 3

Tell him he needs to go and file for a divorce. Don't take him back!

As for this other guy, make sure he does get his divorce and if he is currently living with his wife he is probably lying about the divorce....and I'd dump him too.

YOU have to set the good example for your kids as well!!

Answer 4

Well, get a restraining order, move his stuff to the curb (him included) and serve with divorce papers. DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!!!!! As far as the other situation, I would leave that guy alone until his divorce and yours are final. That only clouds your thinking......

Answer 5

Hey I was married to a man six months and he did the same thing. Tell him plain, get your stuff, get out of this house, if he refuses, call the police and have him physcially removed. DO NOT touch his things, let him move them, there are legal ramifications if you move on thing.

Answer 6

pack up all his stuff... put it outside and change the locks. Serve him with divorce papers. Why on earth did you get married only to get divorced 3 months later, what a waste.

Answer 7

O.K. HOPE YOU CAN HANDLE THIS........GROW UP!!!!!!!!!! YOUR 43 YO!! WHAT KIND OF EXAMPLE ARE YOU SETTING FOR YOUR DAUGHTERS?? ARE YOU AFRAID OF BEING ALONE?? SETTLE ONE RELATIONSHIP BEFORE YOU START ANOTHER FOR GOD SAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. YU KNEW THIS MAN FOR 12YRS, HE'S OBVIOUSLY A JERK AND YOU MARRIED HIM ANYWAY???????????? HELLOOOOOOOOOO, YOU SLOW DOWN AND THINK ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTERS!!!!!!!!!! THIS ISN'T HOW A MOM ACTS!!!!!!!!
GIVE JERK A CHOICE, HE CAN PACK AND LEAVE WITH HIS HEAD HELD HIGH, MEANING NEIGHBORS WILL BE NONE THE WISER OR HE CAN PICK UP EVERYTHING HE OWNS, OFF OF THE LAWN, DIRTY DRAWS AND ALL!!!!!!!!! CHANGE YOUR LOCKS, IF HE BOTHERS YOU CALL COPS!!!!!!!!!!! YOU GOTTA SLOW DOWN GIRL.............LEAVE THE OTHER GUY ALONE FOCUS ON YOUR DAUGHTERS, RAISE THEM TO DO THE RIGHT THING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Get a restraining order or spray his *** with mase

Answer 9

next time you go out for dinner together:

1.At dinner, guard your plate with fork and steak knife, so as to give
the impression that you'll stab anyone, including the waiter, who
reaches for it.

2.Collect the salt shakers from all of the tables in the restaurant,
and balance them in a tower on your table.

3.Drop your plate of food on the floor, continually, until they refuse
to serve you anymore.

4.Wipe your nose on your date's sleeve. Twice.

5.Make funny faces at other patrons, then sneer at their reactions.

6.Repeat every third third word you say say.

7.Give your claim to fame as being voted "Most Festerous" for your
high school yearbook.

8.Read a newspaper or book during the meal. Ignore your date.

9.Stare at your date's neck, and grind your teeth audibly.

10.Twitch spastically. If asked about it, pretend you don't know what
they are talking about.

11.Stand up every five minutes, circle your table with your arms
outstretched, and make airplane sounds.

12.Order a bucket of lard.

13.Ask for crayons to color the placemat. This works very well in
fancier venues that use linen tablecloths.

14.Howl and whistle at women's legs, especially if you're female.

15.Recite your dating history. Improvise. Include pets.

16.Pull out a harmonica and play blues songs when your date begins
talking about themselves.

17.Sacrifice french fries to the great deity, Pomme.

18.When ordering, inquire whether the restaurant has any live food.

19.Without asking, eat off your date's plate. Eat more from their
plate than they do.

20.Drool... a lot.

21.Chew with your mouth open, talk with your mouth full and spray
crumbs.

22.Eat everything on your plate within 30 seconds of it being placed
in front of you.

23.Excuse yourself to use the restroom. Go back to the head
waiter/hostess and ask for another table in a different part of the
restaurant. Order
another meal. When your date finally finds you, ask him/her "What in the
hell took
you so long in the restroom?!?"

24.Recite graphic limericks to the people at the table next to you.

25.Ask the people at the neighboring table for food from their plates.

26.Beg your date to tattoo your name on their derriere. Keep bringing
the subject up over and over.

27.Ask your date how much money they have with them.

28.Order for your date. Order something nasty.

29.Communicate in mime the entire evening.

30.Upon entering the restaurant, ask for a seat away from the windows,
where you have a you have a good view of all exits, and where you can keep
your back to the wall. Act nervous.

31.Lick your plate. Offer to lick theirs.

32.Hum. Loudly. In monotone.

33.Fill your pockets with sugar packets, as well as salt and pepper
shakers, silverware, floral arrangements... i.e anything on the table that
isn't bolted down.

34.Hold a debate. Take both sides.

35.Undress your date verbally. Use a bullhorn.

36.Auction your date off for silverware.

37.Slide under the table. Take your plate with you.

38.Order a baked potato for a side dish. When the waiter brings your
food, hide the potato, wait a few minutes, and ask the waiter for the potato
you "never got". When the waiter returns with another potato for you, have the
first one back up on the plate. Repeat later in the meal.

39.Order beef tongue. Make lewd comparisons or comments.

40.Get your date drunk. Talk about their philosophy. Get it on tape,
and use good judgement in editing to twist their words around.

41.Discuss boils and lesions, as if from personal experience.

42.Speak in pig latin throughout the meal (Or ubber-dubber language,
and other such nonsense).

43.Take a break, and go into the restroom. When you return to the
table, throw a spare pair of underwear on the back of one of the chairs.
Insist
that they just need airing out.

44.If they are paying, order the most expensive thing on the menu.
Take one bite.

45.Bring 20 or so candles you, and during the meal get up and arrange
them around the table in a circle. Chant.

46.Save the bones from your meal, and explain that you're taking them
home to your invalid, senile old mother, because it's a lot cheaper than
actually feeding her.

47.Order your food by colors and textures. Sculpt.

48.Take a thermos along, and hide it under the table. Order coffee,
and fill the thermos one cup at a time, taking advantage of the free refills.

49.Insist that the waiter cuts your food into little pieces. In a
simliar vein, insist that he take a bite of everything on the plate, to
make sure no one poisoned it.

50.Accuse your date of espionage.

51.Make odd allusions to dangerous religious cults.

52.Don't use any verbs during the entire meal.

53.Pass the hat in the restaurant. Use the proceeds (if any) to pay
the bill.

54.Break wind loudly. Add color commentary. Bow.

55.Feed imaginary friends, or toy dolls you've brought along.

56.Bring a bucket along. Explain that you frequently get ill.

Answer 10

KILL HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!