This year is my first Christmas living with my boyfriend and obvisouly I want to spend it together, but we both have our families to be with with as well. How can we decide on when to visit whos family with out one family thinking we choose one over the other. Also my family is on the Isle of Wight and his is only on the otherside of town. Any advise would be great.
2006-10-24 02:22:45 · 21 answers · asked by JBird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh God this brings back some horrible memories for me - who to choose???? There are 3 answers to this one ....
Xmas at your parents or his and then boxing day at the others (if this is feasible)
Xmas at yours this year and his next year
Xmas on your own - together - as it is your first and I am sure they will understand
Hope it works out for you
2006-10-24 02:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. The only idea I have would be for the two of you to alternate. By that I mean this year why not spend the first part of the holiday with his family, and end it with your family. Next year do the opposite. What you really need to do is exactly what you want to do. You and your fiance? have to come to some kind of agreement and stick to it. Holiday's have been known to destroy a family or two. The most important thing to remember is that you and your fiance? have to present a united front. If the two of you are on opposite sides, then it just won't work. Remember that marriage and relationships require one or both of the partners to compromise. Good luck, and merry Christmas!
2006-10-24 02:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try 2 organise it so u can c both......maybe do the morning thing with Ur b/f family and then go over 2 Ur family. If that not poss.........go over 2 Ur family just b4 Christmas and celebrate with them then and spend Christmas with the b/f and his family. If that does not work spend Christmas with the b/f family and New Years with Urs?? Hope this helps. Good Luck. I know how u feel. I have had 2 go thru it every year 4 the past 7 yrs..
2006-10-24 02:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am spending my first christamas with boyf in our new house.
We have decided that we will spend xmas morning with eachother. Then I am going off to my family whilst he goes off to his. We will eat dinner seperately and then go back together for the evening. Boxing day, everyone is coming to our place for more festivities. Because there are only the 2 of us I would find it a little boring, and besides, xmas is for families!!
As for next year, I have no idea!!! No seriously, I'm quite happy doing this every year until I have children, when I will be spending every xmas at home and families can come to me!!
2006-10-24 03:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by tamara19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending Christmas Eve with one family and Christmas with the other.
If you were here in the US, I would say that you should spend Thanksgiving at one and Christmas at the other...but what about New Years? Which family thinks Christmas is a HUGE deal?
At my house, since we are latins, Christmas Eve is a bigger deal to us, so my fiance and I went to my family's on Christmas Eve where we stay up til one or two in the morning for Christmas, and then Christmas day we went to his family's...
2006-10-24 02:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. Take turns each year or spend Christmas Eve with one and Christmas Day with the other. In my case, our families live close so we are able to be with both, but if that is out of the question, you'll have to either separate for Christmas...or compromise.
2006-10-24 02:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by mrtoddanson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the same problem. this year we are going to my familys the weekend before Xmas, parents split up so have to visit dad 1 day then mum the next (they all live in wales thank god!) then back home work for a couple of days and spend Xmas eve with friend sand each other, Xmas day with his sister and we decided to get away for Xmas so Boxing day just us and 27th we are away from it all! spend it together in your own place they will understand. go see them over the Xmas period i dont really like leaving home on Xmas nothing like being at home! good luck and Happy Xmas!
2006-10-24 02:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position this year, we were thinking about asking both families to come and visit us... like one family in the afternoon, the other in the evening, or something like that. But I suppose that's not so easy when one family lives much further away.
2006-10-24 03:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 04:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you two need to determine at which family you plan on spending the most time and make that the last stop. But if you really want to make everyone happy start your own tradition and invite everyone over to your place.
2006-10-24 02:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋