2006-10-24 02:16:11 · 30 answers · asked by Australia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. You should encourage him to make the split with his ex a permanent one. The idea of the divorce is frightening, not because he still has feelings for his ex, but because of the fear of losing so much materially. Men get screwed in divorces. This man needs all the emotional support he can get.
The question you should be asking, is not if you can believe his love for you, but whether you are woman enough to support your man through one of the roughest periods of his life. Well are you?
2006-10-24 02:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ Rum Rhythms ♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to say you cannot trust him if you don't know the circumstances. Let's assume he had an unhappy marriage but since the split up has a friendly relationship with his wife (I know of several people where this is the case) and so there has been no pressing reason for him to seek a divorce. Then along comes another person with whom he falls in love. Because he is still married doesn't mean for one minute he is incapable of loving the new woman.
The dilemma now surely is, will he seek a divorce to marry the new person? If he does then he is proving his love, if not then you have to question his committment.
2006-10-24 02:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is the Bible shows "hell" to be merely the grave of all mankind. In death, there is not suffering, or feelings, thoughts or desires. (Eccles. 9:5, 10) So we are all going there. So what? Is it necessary for you to believe as I do? No. It is necessary for you to believe as the Bible instructs and as God details how He wishes to be worshiped. I could not give you one second of extra life. God gives eternal life on this planet. (Psalms 37:9-11) After he turns it back into a paradise, He promises a resurrection from the dead. (Acts 24:15) Problems come in when people expect others to just believe as they do because they say so. That is not what God expects. Philippians 1:9 shows the principled love among true Christians must abound together with ACCURATE KNOWLEDGE and FULL DISCERNMENT. That is something each person must be able to do. You can and will need help doing this but it must, in the end, only be you who both learns and understands what the Bible says. Only after that can you join others who have already made that trip before you and after you.
2016-05-22 05:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he Say's he does and you have no reason not to believe him then believe him. It not easy getting divorced you know? It just doesn't happen you have to get both parties to agree to a divorce or wait until you have been separated for a certain amount of time (not sure if its 2 or 3 years or even longer)
Some people don't agree to divorces just to be awkward
2006-10-24 02:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can....he is seperated from his wife. Now, I am not saying that he doesn't need to get a divorce, but maybe until you came along there just wasn't a need to worry with all the trouble that comes along with it. YOU need to explain to him that it bothers you and ask when/if he plans no taking care of it. If he doesn't then you may want to look elsewhere because there can never be too much of a future between the two of you.
2006-10-24 02:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If he loved you then why isn't he divorced? He may love something about you to some degree, but he doesn't love you like he says he does. Get out of that situation and steer clear of him. Take the time to get yourself together and find someone just for you. Sharing was good in Kindergarten.
2006-10-24 04:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES OF COURSE !!!
I know it might surprise you but I'm living that
I am separated since 5 years with my wife and have a wonderfull life with my actual partner. She didn't just stop on words and understood why no divorce. We have children with my wife and for the security of the kids, since my wife is very ill, we have decided to stay like that in case something definitive should happend with her illness. Not divorcing is not always sign of cowardliness and i have the great luck to have a partner who is intelligent and who can listen and understand.
2006-10-24 02:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by talkingformydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that when he says that he loves you it is because he does....but he needs to make a jesture of his love....like filing for a divorce so closure can be made before a new era can be started....Sounds like he's trying to hold on to the other life while trying to have a new one....and that's not giving you the validation that you deserve as an individual..
2006-10-24 02:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that when he gets the divorce, you will start listening to him. Until then, NO SEX!
Dont be used, or a useable item in the relationship, because your just giving him what he wants, as he is giving you what you want to hear, and hearing just aint believing if there is no motion on the divorce proceedings.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-10-24 02:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might love you but I wouldn't take the chance of him using me until he fixes things with her. Because that is usually what happens. They work things out and get back together or they use uss as the rebound until the divorce is final and then they say I just got out of a ___yr marriage you realy think I am ready to settle down again.
2006-10-24 02:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋