I have been in a relationship with a man from England for the last 6 years, I live in the US. I have visited him many times - he is single and I am divorced. We have had many problems over this time and always we worked things out. He has been with other women during this time and each time he came back to me. His words were that he needs me in his life. I have just returned from visiting him and with 1 hour left to the vacation, I discovered that he was seeing someone else again. After a week of fun, we parted not speaking. I must admit that I sensed a problem because he seemed to be texting too much and being very careful with his phone. He did admit to seeing someone and when I got on the airplane, we just said good bye. My question is, do I try to get back with him and if he does call me, do I resume this relationship? He is almost 50 and I am in mid 40s. I really need some advice as to what to do. We would always talk each night and sometimes twice a day. Did he use me?
2006-10-24 02:11:47 · 10 answers · asked by irishME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been in this kind of relationship before so here it is from the male perspective.proximity beats long distance.long distance works for a long time but in six years you have not been with him more than a hundred days.yes he sees other women.and you are the breathe of fresh air when those relationships get stale.both of you are predictable and because of distance there is no threat of serious commitment.six years in this relationship is like 6 months in a committed one.if it works for you.hang in there .but why waste your life,you are still young and vibrant not to forget still gorgeous.look around you you will find that other men yearn for you.when i gave up mine i met my wife.trust me life is good and love is great
2006-10-24 02:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he is 50 yrs old and single? I don't think he is looking for a life long partner. I'm sorry to say it but he's just useing you. I'm also a believer that you don't look for love....Love will find you. I have never had a long distance relationship,I would rather meet someone closer where as I could get to know them frist as a friend then move to the next level. You may not want to here it but I feel you should move on . Good Luck and have a good day.
2006-10-24 02:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by R W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I know this is hard, but you need to part ways from him. Living far apart will be a blessing. Maybe he's only seeing other people because of the distance, but that's how he's become accustomed to treating you. It will not change. He is not faithful to you. You need someone who would lay their life down for you. It might be harder to find someone at your age and I suspect that's partly why you've remained in this relationship. But let me tell you, especially at the age your at now, your a grown woman, you DON"T need this. You will find someone who is good to you. By this age you shouldn't have to deal with all this drama, it's for teenagers, because they don't have the experience and don't know better. Also even if you remain single, that's o.k. too. Being single is also a blessing. Either way you will be okay.
2006-10-24 02:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he uses a lot of people including you. Dont keep putting yourself through this with this loser...he's not going to change. Dont waste your money and time on someone who cant and wont be there for you. Take the money you save from the trips to England and join a club or take a course and meet a nice guy who wont take and never give anything back but grief.
2006-10-24 02:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are difficult even when you are committed. I
would say that this one is not working at all. Life is too short to keep
hitting your head on the same wall over and over again. Keep this man
as a friend. It's easier to accept others faults on a friendship level and
let yourself be free. If you happen to find someone else...great. If not..
well at least you have your sanity.
2006-10-24 02:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by sunnymommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may be an old-fashioned conservative guy. To me, love and marriage go hand in hand. So, move on and I think this guy is just using you. If he really loves you that much, he would have proposed to you and at least, he would have tried to arrange some future plans with you (either you moving to England or he moving to the US, ...etc). If he truly needs you this much in his life, he wouldn't be having fun with other women just to substitute the fun that he could have with you.
2006-10-24 02:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as long as he went with another woman yes he used u.long distance relationship never work for long time just for short.i think u should look in the future without him in ur thoughs.u should let him go and try to make a new life with some one hwo diserve u
2006-10-24 02:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste anymore time on this guy - move on.
2006-10-24 02:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by tnmtngirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't put up with that. Quit!
2006-10-24 02:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Martinoluoch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just dump him.. u deserve better girl...
2006-10-24 02:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋