I'm an adult, and divorced.My ex always called me fat, ugly, made fun of my body, i felt so terrible about it.It might be bad, BUT i paid a lot of attention to my face, and my ex always made fun of my face, i always wanted to kill my self.I felt like cutting my face.I NEVER did, he broke up with me.I feel much BETTER now.I remember i was little and my dad used to say in a playful way that he was going to exchange me for the neighbors little girl because
she was beautiful.I always felt sad and bad, i was 7 or 8 years old.
Today in my thirties, i feel BEAUTIFUL but men make me feel ugly.A co worker in a playful way said HI ugly, i felt like ****.i just smiled. As a teen girls didn't want to work next to me, one used to makfe faces. WHY if i feel sexy and beautiful men make me feel
ugly ??? Today i'm single, i liked a men , but i notice that he looks away when i come his way.what is wrong with me ? help me ?
2006-10-24 02:09:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need some therapy sweetheart. It sounds like you have been made to feel "ugly" for most of your life. You ARE beautiful...don't ever forget that! Don't ever let another person make you think any different. Good Luck.
2006-10-24 02:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe your self esteem just needs a boost. Just because a man scarred you there is always gonna be that voice in the back of your head.
I'm sure that your childhood was just like most of us and usually young girls make fun of other young girls because they are jealous of looks, smarts, etc. That was too long ago for you to keep thinking about it.
Daddy was joking, as was your co worker.
Apparently you don't feel beautiful and sexy or you wouldn't be asking this question.
The problem isnt with you, the problem is with the other guy. Why not just look away from him for a change? Don't go out of your way to see him or talk to him. He will either notice you or not. If not then move on to another who will appreciate your beauty among other things!!!!!
Give yourself a boost in the self esteem dept. and get the treatment you deserve.
2006-10-24 02:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Spokette 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow.. suicide. I dont think anyone makes the decision to commit suicide rationally. I know your probably not gonna like this response .. but i feel you have no intention of really committing suicide.. you just really want things to change .. and feel a lil trapped.. But ur 18 .. practically an adult .. so now it is time for u to learn the tools of strength to get you through MUCH bigger things than loneliness.. Be the changes you want to see in the world.. If you are having a hard time making new friends .. you're gonna have to realize the only one holding you back from happiness is yourself.. U have to push yourself and lay it all out on the line.. you may get rejected .. but u might not.. and since death is the only other option for u .. u have NOTHING to lose.. At this point if you are suicidal .. put it off.. do something OUTRAGEOUS.. try all the things u were worried and shy about doing .. cause it cant be annnny worse than death! .
2016-03-28 06:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to walk around with confidence and keep your head up and say to yourself, damn I look good, the men will come maybe you are putting off a vibe that you aren't ready to be taken off the market. You have to just be brave and put yourself out there, I promise you there are better men out there that will make you feel beautiful even if you put on weight. You will find one just give it time and in the mean time have a good time and stop obssessing about what other people think. I never obssess over what other people think I say if you don't like what you are looking at then don't look, and if someon was to actually say something to me I'd kick there a s s.
So smile you are beautiful and screw anyone that has a problem with it.
2006-10-24 02:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont just go up to men. wait for them to come to you. and i dont believe anyone should make anyone else feel ugly. I personally go for guys that look a bit rougher and have a great personality. I dont go for Brad Pitt types. And if they come up to me i'm not interested. I'm just trying to say everyone is different. If they treat you bad, then it's their problem not yours. They obviously have some issues. Plus they cant have found you unattractive because they went after you in the first place. They are just trying to do you down. Be happy with yourself and dont worry what they think.
2006-10-24 02:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahoy, matey. Okay, first of all, I am sorry you have to feel like this. Sounds as if you are caught in a kind of vicious circle, where just as you are getting your stuff together and start feeling good about yourself, you step back into the negativism. Notice I wrote "step back" and not "fall back", as it is a choice you make, maybe not consciously, but still a choice. I would recommend you to try a seminar (or counseling) to get back to who you truly are and to anchor yourself in your heart. Whatever happens in your life (and very disgusting things ARE going to happen), you can always plunge back into that place of inner peace. Chin up!
2006-10-24 02:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you allow people to have such power over you. Your father sound like everyones dream come thrue. To say such athing to his daughter is bad very bad thats scaring materiel. listen buck them all you have along life ahead of you.why dont you yourself andyou again focus on becoming the best whatever start today and the rewards will be something you never felt it could happen to you?or spend the rest of your life in that bubble. anything has to be better then the bubble. one day one hour be true to thyself in one month the difference will show ?be careful you may discovered the person you always was just never new it .one more thing let your father be your personal couch he sounds like abrilliant man one who helpl there daughters with suiside thoughts .good luck be true to thyself enter the world were winners feelwonerful benifits. It could happen to you.
2006-10-24 02:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, good for you for getting away from your abusive husband!!! I know from experience what you went through. And how awful for your dad to say those things. If you feel beautiful, then you ARE beautiful. I wish I had as much self confidence as you do; I think that's great.
2006-10-24 02:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't feel confident about your looks when you like someone. It shows in your question. Are there any men that ever make you feel beautiful? Are you sure you are not unconciously going toward the men who make you feel like your Dad did?
2006-10-24 02:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by hearts_and_thoughts_2003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothings wrong with you. It is the idiots you associate with. Period!
2006-10-24 02:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋