I've been sleeping with him for over three years now...... He will never leave his wife and kids (please try not to be judgemental) I would not want him to... I'm trying not to call him ever so I can let it go..... I love him, I want him and he's my best friend. Every time I get to a point where I'm ok with out him.... he ends up calling me.... I've prayed for God to remove him from my life and for strength to not answer his calls-- to no avail...... what purpose could this affair possibly have????????????? except to provide momentary companionship for me (a single mom w/4 kids who does not want to bring a man into the family picture)....... and brief sexual encounters for him....
he tells me months ago he's in a bad state emotionally???? what the heck was that... he needed time... he'll explain it at a later date??? what the heck does that mean????? and why do I feel closer to him even though I've seen him way less than previously??? I guess I'm just really confused.
2006-10-24 01:58:56 · 7 answers · asked by who me? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im going through the same thing...er...except with a woman. and i don't have any children. I guess you have to let it go...the next time he calls you, you have to let him know how you feel and what you want to do. Either stay friends, without a sexual relationship or say goodbye. Im sure it will hurt him but its best if you TELL him how you feel and not just stop answering his phone calls.
2006-10-24 02:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sun And Sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough situation to be in. You've fallen VERY emotionally attached to someone who cannot allow himself to do the same. He obviously doesn't want to disrupt his family unit, yet he still wants his fun on the side. A classic case of a guy having his cake and eating it too. You seem intelligent enough to know that you're being used, which I'm sure you don't need anyone to tell you, still, there can't be anything good coming out of this relationship except for the odd feel-good moments when you're together. The time away from him only causes you emotional distress. In the long run, you have to ask yourself, is this all worth the few times you get to see him out of a week? month? year? Isn't there anyone a little more close-to-home that you may have some interest in?
Time to stand your ground. Stop replying to emails, stop returning messages... try hard to get him out of your mind and time to spend more time on other things. Try an online dating service. Put up a pic, and you'd be surprised the attention you'd get. EVEN if it's negative attention, you may still be able to find that void in your life, sexual or not, with someone who is SINGLE, and more available geographically and emotionally the guy you're currently involved with.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-24 02:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by tazmanean_devil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You brought this on yourself. It is sick to sleep with a married man. He may not leave his wife, actually they never do, and you are stuck a home wrecker! Enjoy Karma is a big one!
Hey, sorry, I'm not usually so mean, its just that I'm married, and marriages would work alot better if people were more respectful of them. I know love can make a person crazy, but this guy doesn't love you enough to leave his wife. best wishes
2006-10-24 02:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I have to be judgemental.
Just walk away. He's playing you and his wife for fools. If he really loved you or his wife, he wouldn't be doing this. He'd either leave his wife, or not be sleeping with you. But, he only loves himself, so he is being selfish. And unless you are willing to always be the mistress, then you need to leave.
You can pray to God as much as you want for strength, but you need to be the one who stops taking the guy's calls. You can call him your best friend all you want, but he is clearly showing that he does not respect you.
2006-10-24 02:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 yrs of full sex ....wil be difficult to coup without it sis. And u have all those kids,,,,,,,,,,,,,em scared he gonna get another in the next encounter.
2006-10-24 02:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dickson L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuses, excuses, excuses.... he is just playing, sorry.
2006-10-24 02:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you miss the sex dont you? lol
2006-10-24 02:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋