my husband and i have a great love life, but there are some little things he does that turn me off and I don't know how to tell him without hurting his feelings. should I say something to him, and how, or do I find a way to live with the little turn-offs?
2006-10-24 01:43:58 · 19 answers · asked by iittghy? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try approaching him in a way that both of you could make some minor changes.
for example, if he leaves things around like dirty socks or something.. suggest that you could get a hamper for dirty clothes that you can both use.
if its things like dirty dishes, say to him, you know what would help us both... if we started rinsing our dishes..
try to incorporate yourself when you mention about things he does and ways you could change little things.
that way it wont seem like you are attacking him and making him feel bad
2006-10-24 01:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by nicoles1504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The diplomatic way to change a behaviour is to suggest an alternative. I have no idea what it is your husband does but next time he does whatever don't look disgusted by say Hey did you know that was something I found really rude when I was growing up. Also remember that with comfort levels in a relationship that especially men feel it is ok to be more free with their bodily functions. Why that is I will never know I still think its ok to turn the water on when you pee.
2006-10-24 08:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key to a good marriage.... let him know that U love him.... the love life is great..... build him up.... and say that there are some things that is a turn off..... ask him is there something that he thinks are turn offs.... this will give him a chance to put in his comments.... this way it is a two way street, U both are talking about Ur concerns....
2006-10-24 08:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of give and take in relationships. If it is something that absolutely turns you off, them be honest with him and tell him if he did something else it would enlighten your sex with him. But if it something that is just annoying, it may benefit you to just live with it. I'm sure you also do somethings that may be annoying to him also. Good luck.
2006-10-24 08:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him........He would probably tell you, right?
The next time you feel the moment is right, just say you would like to talk about some things that for some reason bother you.........Remind him that you are not exempt from doing things that may bother him, and you need to discuss this..........Don't forget in a marriage you both are continuing to grow and to learn about the other.........that will always continue throughout your marriage........we are always learning........
Also, I have been married for 37 years..........Things my husband did 20 years ago was fine.it didn't bother me then..........why in the heck it bothers me now, I can't explain......A couple of things he does now, drives me nuts...I finally got up the nerve and asked him to talk to me about something and to my surprise I drove him nuts about a couple of things also........Who knew? Not me..........We actually wound up laughing about the little quirks we have..........It turned out to be a good talk...We continued to talk about a variety of things, trying to solve family issues, the problems of the world, etc.....it was good.....You'll both probably enjoy the talk...
2006-10-24 08:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what they are...I mean if he stinks or something then tell him about it or take a shower with him first. He should get the hint.
If he is too rough or something like that, you can't change him and will need to either live with the issue or move on.
2006-10-24 08:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything because he will then begin to have apprehensions. Just deal with the little things that you don't like and put more emphasis on the things that you do like.
2006-10-24 10:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be honest and tell him that a few things he does bothers you, because you are spending the rest of your life with him, you can't just avoid the things he does that bothers you, 2 people who are married should be comfortable enough to tell the person about the things they do.
2006-10-24 08:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No be gentle. Talk to him about the turn offs, That is what relationships are all about.
2006-10-24 08:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definately tell him in a gentle way otherwise the little turnoffs will turn into big turnoffs
2006-10-24 08:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋