my boyfriend is really nice until I make him mad or make him feel uncomfortable!!! Then he like pushes me a little and cusses at me and says hurtful things!!! He makes me feel like im less than a human being? What should I do?
2006-10-24 01:43:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've just told us he makes you feel 'less than a human being'. What do you think the answer to your question is?
2006-10-24 01:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy Artichoke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him good bye and get out while you can. If he pushes you and cusses at you now imagine what he would do if you married him. This is exactly the way an abusive relationship starts. You never have to let some one treat you that way. No matter what you do, no matter how uncomfortable he is, NO MATTERWHAT!!!!! HE DOES NOT HAVE THAT RIGHT. Move on but be careful because its when you try to break up with a guy like this that violence could happen.
2006-10-24 08:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, verbal abuse can be just as scaring as physical abuse. Physical scars can heal eventually, but mental scars can probably be a lot worse and take longer to heal. If you did dump him there's a good chance that now anytime you meet a new guy you're going to think that he's going to do and say the same thing and you'll blow off the actually guy you're looking to be with. So I suggest dump the guy but don't let him represent all guys. There are actually some of us that are nice.
2006-10-24 10:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by andre' w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him...but, beware of future stalking/abuse. Don't give in out of fear or desires for him. You will regret it later. You already know something isn't right...go with that knowledge and get out now. We all make a person mad at times and how they deal with that anger is very important. This is your red flag to run quickly! Emotional and/or physical abuse is bad, bad, bad! You got the internet...read up the issue and make yourself strong. Don't believe him when he says sorry, he just loves you and he won't do it again. You have to accept this is a part of who this person is, as is. So, either know you want this and stay cuz it will be repeated...maybe even worse as time goes on, or decide you don't want the abuse in your life and get out now. Make sure people in your life know what is going on and can help protect you.
2006-10-24 08:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by hearts_and_thoughts_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make him mad or uncomfortable. Surely anyone would get pissed off with you if you did that to them. But he shouldn't touch you, that's not allowed - he should walk away before he does that. Surely you're being abusive to him by making him mad, is it acceptable to make someone mad? Why do you do that?
2006-10-24 08:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"pushes me a little" I think you're minimizing this. And it's never OK We all get mad and/or uncomfortable at times, but no one should physically work it out, except maybe at the gym....
2006-10-24 08:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Appreciatethosewhohelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, this is abusive. You should tell your bf that you don't like being treated like that. And, you deserved to be treated like a human being. Just tell your thought to the guy let him know your feeling is hurt by his actions.
2006-10-24 08:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Note , your on a slippery slope, The more he dos-it ,the more he'll do it , thears a good chance thears a glitch in him or his famely, stay objectuve, and alert, The first time he rases his hand or fist, look at it like a wave good by. Or stay and bee another batterd woman,
2006-10-24 09:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by cornelius p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, its better to do it now than later. Because later as the abuse goes on you'll find yourself question your own thoughts beliefs, needs, You'll think maybe he is right... and then you'll fall vulnerable to his lies and pleading. Leave now while you are strong and able to identify that this is NOT a normal way for a man to act!
2006-10-24 14:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He is very controlling. Those little pushes will become hits after awhile. Get out now.
2006-10-24 08:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋