i dont know how to read (in the spiritual sense) my best friend, when we are alone, she's cool, we chat and we have a right laugh but when there are other people around she doesn't acknowledge me in the same way! the other day we spent an hour together after school just hangin out listening to music and stuff and we had a really good time but the next day she didn't even say anything about it!
2006-10-24 01:42:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately that is normal behavior for someone who is young. Just know she is probably self conscious around other people and she probably isn't thinking about you at that point in time. Try not to take her so personally.
2006-10-24 01:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its up to you to choose your friends but I would talk to her about it. Just say it hurts your feelings when she doesn't acknowledge you around others, that you don't feel she appreciates having you as a friend. When I was in grade school, I had 2 friends that told me that they could be my friend at home but not at school. That I couldn't talk to them and they might say mean things to me when others were around but we should still be friends when we were alone. They wanted to come to my house and have fun, eat my food, and then treat me like crap at school. My religion had a strict dress code, I couldn't cut my hair, wear jeans, or jewelry. Because I was different other kids made fun of me and they didn't want to be known as my friend. I learned later that a true friend will stick by you and accept you no matter what others think. You must respect yourself and ask that she respects you or the friendship won't last. It will end up doing more damage than good.
After I graduated, I had a best friend who I felt took me for granted. I broke off contact with her even though it broke my heart. A year later we talked things out and are now better friends than we ever were. Our bond is stronger than it ever was and we both wish we had talked things out much sooner. Nevertheless I wouldn't trade that year of being lonely for the new understanding and appreciation for each other we share now.
2006-10-24 02:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be that she doesn't want anyone else to know you guys are friends. Ask her why she ignores you when others are around. Sounds like she is too concerned with what others think. I had a "friend" like that, and pretty soon I figured out that she just wanted me for her own conveniences, and what I could do for her...one sided friendships aren't friendships after all.
2006-10-24 01:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she doesnt sound like a very good friend, you need to confront heer about this and stand up for yourself! im sure theres toherpeople in your school that you could be really good mates with and who would appreciate you more. Maybe when you start finding new friends she will realise just what good of friend you were to her and how much she needs you. xox hope things work out good xox
2006-10-24 01:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by chickadoo:P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless her she may be a little shy... and finds it easier to open up in a 1:1 way rather than a group thing... i was like this in school and i still am in a funny way!!! next time your on yuour own tell her how much you enjoyed it without sounding like your coming on to her!! and tell her much you appreciate her company/friendship...
Good Luck
2006-10-24 01:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and let her know that it bothers you. She may not even realize that she is doing it. There could be so many different reasons why. (Maybe she feels so comfortable around you that she can be her "real" self but around others she "clams" up.) Just have a good talk with her and good luck.
2006-10-24 01:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to her, and voice what you're feeling. She might not even realise that she's behaving like that. Be prepared for her to tell you something you don't want to hear, tho. But if that's tha case, then do you really want her as a friend anyway?
2006-10-24 01:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange... Perhaps she is embarrassed by you for some reason or the other alternative she likes you a little bit more than she should and doesn't know how to handle it.
hope it works out.
2006-10-24 01:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to read into things a bit much. Try and see the person. Is the person good for you?
2006-10-24 01:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why! Is she miserable sometimes, moody? If so, it is her problem, not yours! Sounds difficult too get along with, I am sure you deserve a nicer friend than that
2006-10-24 01:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋