and his have affair, after we got married he di have an affair but i for give him for that, know i have a daughter year old, please tell me what i sould do
2006-10-24 01:29:07 · 15 answers · asked by pooja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Based on your info, sounds like he is still having an affair. Talk to him.
2006-10-24 01:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey: I can only guess most of your plight, your not to clear. I guessed he had an affair that you forgave him for? you can forgive, not forget. The heart is a forgive less part of you. Don't let this get in your way to recovery, it happens. Are you clean and do you keep yourself in decent shape?
Of course counseling is on the menu, someone that's apart and can see something we're missing. There's children present so, this is a big problem, where does he stand in this? Have you approached him about this, brought it into the open. Maybe the first time was a warning and he's now avoiding it, trying to make a go of it but?
2006-10-24 08:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is having another affair and if he is not something is wrong with him that needs to be checked out. In my opinion you should talk very frank with him and find out what is going on. If he has been unfaithful to you once there is a big chance he is doing it again. He has already broken up your marriage even if he is still living with you. If it were me I would make him leave and if he won't and you can't because of money reasons there are organizations out there that help woman in that situation that is if your family or friends can't or won't. You should think more of yourself as a person you don't deserve that kind of treatment.
2006-10-24 08:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Diane H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try improving yourself and telling him how you feel.
if he doesnt care, try it a few more times...if he still doesnt listen, drop the relationship and start a new life with your daughter. it may not be easy since you have to start working and supporting ur daughter, but its just a matter of time that your husband starts screwing up the household financial matters and it would be too late to do anything then.
on the other hand if your husband confides in you, then whatever the problem is, both of you should try to work it out by getting some help, dressing up or whatever- i dont know.
just know when to let go of the relationship, dont keep clinging on.
2006-10-24 08:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by premiumcarrot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow there are some serious issues here. Why have you not had sex for a year? Have you approached him? Has this anything to do withthe recent birth of your child? I think you need to sit down with your spouse / mate and discuss these very important issues before the relatioship reaches a point that you can not rebuild. You need to do this as soon as possible. Good luck
2006-10-24 08:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear pooja,(r u indian?)
he have an a affair then hw u marry with him ? is he ever told about his past life before ur marriage.if u know about all this matter then u r a nutt / dumb person in this world. ok now leave all this fXXking matter first find out who is tht girl meet her and xplain her what is ur problem tell everything about ur hsbnd (emotionaly) request her lots once she agrees thn ok otherwise ( GANDHIGIRI ). try something new if ur daily life routine is boring. find out ur husbds like or dislike wht u never find out in this last dammmmmm 4 years . n seduce him lots change ur look / attitude / behave / clothing when he at home always wear some attracted dress n talk some hot words tht he never listen befor bcose mens always wants his wife in horny / seductive mood. every man have a caring heart i think ur hsbnd also hve. each n evrytime touch his heart when u talking with him. u can always ask him about his gf tht time he realised tht u also care about his gf invite her for lunch / dinner always betouch with her. some other day he change his mind and he always urs. n one more thing pls take care of ur sweet baby ther is no fault of her.our blessing with u n her always.
thnx.
take care.
2006-10-24 09:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by vinay bhatkar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but, if he has had an affair before and he isn't having sex with you, he's probably having another affair. See a lawyer.
2006-10-24 08:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, sounds like you guys have a few issues to sit down and talk about, I suggest getting a babysitter for the evening, so there will be no interruptions, and just try to talk to him, ask him to please be honest, because not knowing where things stand hurt worse, then knowing the truth. Then decide if he is worth the heartache, everyone deserves to be HAPPY. Good luck.
2006-10-24 08:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by Leeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is having another affain, mabey you should confront him. How long were you 2 married when he had the first affair? I would leave if i were you.
2006-10-24 08:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, are you saying something???? If he had a affair, and its nothingsexual going on between the two of you, chances are hes cheating again
2006-10-24 08:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by val l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋