2006-10-24 01:14:08 · 14 answers · asked by nickname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Reverse the situation. Say something like ' You know, If you ever saw my boyfriend messing around on me, I would want you to tell me.' See if she says the same to you. If so, ask her if she really means it, and if she would be angry at you for telling her. Then just tell her what you know, and tell her that it hurt your feelings because you felt that he was making a fool of her. Tell her of your fears of it wrecking your friendship. If she loves you, she will get angry at him, instead of at you.
2006-10-24 01:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but how you handle the situation depends upon your age.
If you are a school student, you know as well as I, that you can't just out and tell her. Life would become miserable.
If you have facts, then you have locations. Nothing saying the two of you couldn't just accidentally be at one of these locations.
If you are out of school then you can take your friend aside, and share your information with her.
Rules: 1..Don't say Your boyfriend is cheating on you!
2..Make no accusations at all.
3..Present your facts as "Did you know?"
4. No matter what listen! Do not bad mouth the boyfriend.
2006-10-24 02:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if she is a true friend she will appricate that you told her. I really think that you should tell her, and well if she is mature enough, like i said she well appricate it. I was in the same situation as you were, and well to make a long story short, me and her are not friends no more...so i mean you know your friend more than i do so really you decide what you need to do....but be mature about and just tell her. If she ends the friendship then she really wasent your friend to start with.
2006-10-24 06:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are going to think I am awful when I say this...but don't tell her directly.
If you do, then she will confront him and he will deny it. Girls never want to believe that someone is cheating on them, so then they will tend to think that their friend is just jealous and dump the friend.
Instead, if there is any way you can get him caught...I would do that instead. If he goes a certain place to do this, ask her to go with you. If the other girl doesn't know, tell the other girl and she can break the news.
2006-10-24 01:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend whats going on with her boyfriend, it really shouldn't cause problems with your friendship, unless she choose to belive the story he tells her after she confront him.
if that happens give her time, she should come around. If she doesn't let the friendship go
2006-10-24 01:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by val l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut, this is none of your business, why would you want to hurt her feelings, she will find out eventually and I would not want to be the bearer of bad news. Just be a friend and when she does find out, be there to listen in a very non judgmental fashion. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-24 01:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. I don't think it will ruin your friendship. She will be grateful.
2006-10-24 01:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by JIVE TURKEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have proof just tell her. She'll realize then that you really are a friend and don;t want to see her hurt.
2006-10-24 01:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say take your chances & tell her & if she turns on you goodbye to her cause she wasn't your friend in the first place.
2006-10-24 01:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very touchy situation....i think it would be best if you could find him out with someone else and call up your friend and say "hey let's go here" and let her see him with this other girl for herself....and then support her cause she is going to need it!!!!
2006-10-24 01:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋