Is suicide an option or helplessness when someone is really sad?

Question

Is suicide an option or helplessness when someone is really sad?

I'm a teenager and not long ago my life and existence started to become as hell.I cry when i'm alone and try to look very happy when there's someone around or if i'm in public(school,along the road,in the hypermarket).But sometimes i feel really desperate that i want to commit suicide and free myself from all what's making me sad and unhappy.My parent treat me as if i'm something which has no emotion at all and talk to me properly when they need me to do something for them.All started when i was about 9-10 years old,i wanted to become permanently vegetarian for i felt pity for all the animals which are killed everrtime.My parents yelled at me and forced me to eat chicken because they said that i was a problem to them and that they can't prepare separate food only to please me.Afterwards came the major problem this year when my congenital malformed bones(left ribs,clavicle,arm) started to be more visible as i am somehow quite skinny.

And instead of finding a way to correct the malformations,they told me that i was the sole responsible for what happened to me as i did not eat everything and left me to my condition.

Answer 1

it helpless.whats the point of it? people need to think about the people it will effect.like the people that love them etc. about the plans they have for their future. you know.itr aint worth it.

look i know how you feel because i sometimes feel the same way, but all you haver to do is find something that youl ike and no one can take away from you. like me for example, i like drama,stage managing,etc. i like rock music,it helps me calm down and i play sports. you just have too find something to keep your mind off of things that make you sad. trust it isnt worth it.

Answer 2

When you are a kid, things can be tough.

You don't have all of the choices that you will be able to have as an adult and that makes it difficult when you hold certain beliefs that you can't act on. Here is the way I look at it though. This is a tough time in your life and it will get better. Time goes very fast although it doesn't always seem that way when you are young. One day you will look back and think... "I can't believe I even thought of suicide as an option".

Life has so many up's and downs... There will probably be many bad times, but in with that there will be some really AMAZING times that you are going to be so happy that you were able to be a part of it.

Last.... There are going to be many years where you can look back on the pain and suffering that you have now and make a difference in other people's lives. You will know what it was like and you will give a darn. That's BIG. The world needs more of that. Animals & people alike need more of that.

So no, suicide is not an option.

Knowledge is THE option. Learn all you can about whatever interests you and be the best in your field. You will then be in the greatest position to help others and mostly, you will be helping yourself. Your mind is inside you and you can put into it whatever you choose. Why not put positive thoughts and things that will help you and others to move forward?

Stay strong and make a difference.

Answer 3

Darling suicide is an option but have you thought of how difficult it is to do. How will you do it, would you like to hurt yourself even more, there is enough people and things hurting you at the moment why try and do it more.

You are a teen ager, I felt really bad when I was younger and have tried, you cannot punish people for what they have done to you, they do this because they are unhappy too and you are an easy target.

You feel for animals and that is good, probably because people don't feel for you. Eat the food you get at home just don't touch the meat, while living with your parents you live under they're rule and that seems like you have no choice. Get through school, set a goal to get away from this. When you work and live on your own you choose, until then please try and be adaptable, write down what will change and make the changes when you are able too.

In the meantime phone the Samaritans and look for help, remember there is a lot of help out there if you ask for it, don't let rejections from close ones put you off trying, your a person and other people notice it more than parents do sometimes. Don't give up and don't destroy yourself trying to make people change, they might not and then you will feel worse.

Good luck

Answer 4

Hello, ok, so im going to have a different take on this. There wil be alot of people that say the feeling you are having are selfish, that you don't care about other people if you think about suicide, etc etc. I understand you can't just snap your fingers and get out of depression, it doesn't work that way. First i would thing about finding help outside of your parents if possible, i know you might want to roll your eyes at this, but believe me, you are not alone in your feelings. Yes, suicide is a permanent fix for a temporary solution. Fight or flight response, and you just want out right? At this point you feel you have nothing to loose? If that's the case, then what would it hurt to talk to someone? Just try. As for being vegitatian..i also have another take on this too. Number one, we as humans are omnivores, meat and veg. Kudos to you for knowing that it takes a life to feed a life. Many don't. Try honoring what you take into your body, thank that animal for giving it's life, giving you strong bones, and strength. Feeling sorry for the animal is not respect. When you are in a situation where you can be a vegetarian, it is important to eat the proper things, there are many books on it. Please do not give up, there are many paths in this life, you are on a rocky one right now, and you feet may be sore, put your face to the wind and keep walking. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I think this is a question that takes a lot of serious thought.

It's easy for us to say it's an act of helplessness and that there is no courage involved in ending your own life.

But that's not really it either, for those who have tried to end their lives, some will say it takes a lot of courage to even try. Admittedly, some of us will be scared shitless to even hurt ourselves by accident much less try to harm ourselves intentionally.

To ponder over whether suicide is an option, I personally don't think it is. But for someone who has had to go through any living hell, dying seems better than living. I should know what that feels like, there was a time when taking my own life would be the best way to stop the pain, or so I thought. While on my part I could say, my parents would be sad if I did such a thing, some might not have that privilege. Sadder still would be those who did not believe that others would be sad for them.

Being physically sick is one thing, but mind games are the worst. Depression is no laughing matter. And your state of mind really affects how you act, think and decide. Sometimes, it comes to the point that you cut yourself to know that you are alive.

It's hard to really know how a suicidal person feels. Somedays the harder we try to show we care, the more they push us away. While others because of a lack of attention think that the emptiness might finally be noticed.

In the end, we can only care as much as we can and the rest has to be left to a person to decide what to do with their lives. It's really hard saying this, but there is only so much anyone can do to save someone else. At the end of the day, unless a person wants to save themselves, there is nothing more we can do. We are only human, there will come a time when we ourselves will get depressed, burnt out and disillusioned.

We can care all we like, help all we like, but it's up to them to decide to live. All we can do is show some support, offer some understanding. After that, the ball is in their court. It hurts for them, just like it hurts for us. It hurts but all we can do is love. Love and wait.

Answer 6

Let me honestly say this. I have before. and am again. Here is a short description of my story. In 2001 I went into a deep depression out of the blue. Couldn't stop crying for anything, no reason at all too. I was put on Respridol and Paxil. The respridal made me gain a lot of weight over time, it also made me feel really like a zombie, but then after 1 and a half years and 30 pounds more, I went to another doctor who said i didn't even need the respridol and weened me off slowly I quickly lost 30 pounds in 5 months and felt alive again, i did however remain depressed but not as much. It took me really about 1 1/2 years to fully overcome my depression. I was fine for about 5 years until i had a relapse of my OCD which then made me depressed again from anxiety, It has been about 1 1/2 years again and I am feeling a lot better and only on Lexapro now. I don't cry anymore but my OCD is manageable. One thing I have learned is that depression doesn't last forever. Just do what you can in order to stay busy, exercise for real, it is easy to just have no motivation to do anything and i have been there, however all i end up doing is moping in my own sadness. Therefore I balls up and go to the gym because there I will start to sweet and feel better for even a few hours, then thank God when you go to sleep and pray that the next day is better. Do not believe that everyday is a happy day else you will faulter, moods change throughout the day and enjoy the good times and flow with the ruff times. It takes time, but it is quite true. I know God pulled me through it but I also had to fight for it and I am a living proof you can also pull out of it, have faith in Jesus if you are christian or whatever higher power you believe in. It works, embrace this time as an opportunity to eventually help others going through the same process. I have had it a total of 2 times and random days that remind me of the past feelings, but i always know there is a light at the end of a tunnel. Sometimes it could be a train, but just step out of the way and keep going. Believe. Have faith, and remember to not beat yourself up for this at all. Accept it and you will eventually get better. Believe me. The only reason i am a bit depressed now but I am controlling it is because of my OCD which I will not go into because it is really depressing and my divorce that occured 2 weeks ago. Other than that, my life is grand. It's the small things. Hold on to them. If you need anything contact me. God bless+

Answer 7

Life is about choices, suicide is not a choice or an option, it's also not about helplessness.

If you or anyone you know even thinks about this please get help, call a hot line, see a counselor or if religious, a minister or priest.

Anyone who has lived through the tragedy of suicide in their family will tell you how senseless it was. So many times the reason a family member gave up is because they withdrew and quit communicating.

Suicide or attempted suicide can only be recognized as a desperate cry for help.

Answer 8

i think u should take care of u health instead of worrying about the animals.
i know u have a very saintly n good thought of becoming a vegetarian but it is not possible if u live with people who are non-vegetarians. You are just a teenager, wait until you grow up and you can live independently, that's the time u can do what you want.
Now just stick to the rules to keep your parents on ur side.
Learn to manipulate the world for your benefit

Answer 9

No, there are always other options. I would recommend talking to your school counselor for his/her ideas. Trust me, if you bring in your post, they will help.

As far as being vegetarian, it is great that you believe in being humane to animals, but unfortunately you are a minor and have no rights, such as the right not to eat what your parents serve. But maybe you can discuss with them some alternatives like eating the side dishes they prepare, but with a peanut butter sandwich, offering to make your own meals (and clean up the kitchen after wards), or buying your own main courses. Preparing separate meals is a hassle, but it doesn't mean that there aren't ways to make it work. My sister was in a similar position (she won't eat beef) and the compromise that our family came to is that she eats what she wants for lunch (either because she packs it at home or buys it at school) and for dinner my mom serves dinner with two options: take it or leave it. If she doesn't want to eat it, she doesn't have to, but the kitchen is closed. If you are rational and polite with your parents, they will be more likely to help you than if you whine, kick, scream, whatever.

As far as your weight goes, it sounds like your parents are worried that you aren't healthy. Is your vegetarian diet healthy? Talk to your doctor, a nutritionist, or the school nurse to make sure that you are eating enough, getting the right kinds of foods, and eating them in the right combination. It may be that you aren't getting enough protein, so by drinking more milk and eating nuts you will start gaining muscle mass (if you work out), and you should be fine.

But whatever you do, remember that suicide is not an option. It is a cowards way out.

Answer 10

No, suicide is never a option. This is a temporary situation you are in. Please seek some assistance from a guidance counselor or someone that you trust. God has created all of us, no one is perfect. There is a reason you are on this earth. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary situation. This will pass, your sadness. Please seek out a trusted adult to talk to, I would assume that at your school there is a teacher, counselor you can interact with and explain to them how you are feeling and why. Sometimes our parents act in ways that we do not understand, and find upsetting. However, they do love you and want the best for you. Please talk with someone a trusted adult, you seem to have a lot going on and talking with someone will give you some sense of relief. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 11

Suicide is not the choice to make , because it is final. As long as there is life there is hope. Talk to your school counselor or a minister if you can. A stranger can't always realize how strongly something affects you, but if your parents are short on understanding, hang in there, they won't always be in charge of you. I see many people living great lives that had to overcome difficulties early in their lives.