he never gave her a hint that he was going to do this.he was there and then gone .he says he isnt happy with his life .i think hes just overwhellend or a other women he just quit and ran away from his family he says hes living with a buddy from work but no adress or phone number was given to her only number is cell phone and he only ansers it when he wants to
2006-10-24 00:23:37 · 17 answers · asked by Judy P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He can not legally just leave his kids like that. She needs to gt a lawyer who can contact him. He didn't leave a number>?..She has his work number or address's, they will contact him there. How can someone just leave like that??..She must be besides herself right now..and those poor kids!!!!What a cowardly and selfish way to face a problem.. He should be sooo ashamed of himself!
2006-10-24 00:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How devastating! Sounds like you may be right about another woman. Why else would he not even leave a number, in case something was to happen to one of the children? Those children have a right to support from their dad. Your daughter needs to file for a legal seperation, on the grounds of abandonment. Have the papers served to him at his job. That way, she can at least get some financial support, while he's deciding what he wants to do with his life! If the judge sees that he has left no forwarding address, and made no attempt to help pay the bills he created, they will garnish his wages! I wish her the best of luck!
2006-10-24 00:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of sitting around doing nothing----YOUR DAUGHTER needs to seek out LEGAL counsel and get some much needed financial support for the 3 children---
Hopefully this husband is employed and a wage garnishment can be done to support the children he left behind---
If you want to believe this man is living with a buddy----I'll sell you some swamp land----He's shacked up with a female and that's all there is to it. If you want to find out the shocking truth---hire a private investigator---to snap the pictures---he/she can also find out where he lives etc---
Get your daughter involved in taking care of herself and her children---They all have rights in the court system---use it to get justice and $$$$$ that I'm sure is desparetly needed in this case!
2006-10-24 00:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish. He likes making babies but does not like keeping them. Good riddance to him. She had 4 children she was caring for. Three that love her and appreciate all her hard work are still there.
He needs to clean up his act in so many categories and she does not have time to wait for him to do it. She needs to move on, file for divorce, get his wages garnished so she can get child support paid directly to her from his employer(s) . before he even sees his paycheck. There is a wonderful man who is out there who will love her and the children in the future. Help her all you can.
2006-10-24 01:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same thing happen to me, it was hard as i doubted myself and blamed myself. it took me months upon months, and in this time, i did every thing possible to get my husband to come home, but one day, i realised this is no good for my kids, and i can now look back and say that he actually did me a favour, im indepanted now and only have to worry for myself and kids. The only downside is that my very soon to be ex husband doesnt have much contact with the children.
Your daughter will get thur it and become a stronger person for it.
2006-10-24 00:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by vicki b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure what your question is, but I can tell you I've been where she is now! Best thing for your daughter to do is to seek Legal advise IMMEDIATELY! Tell her not to wait around for her husband to do the right thing, because if he was capable of doing the right thing, he wouldn't have just walked out. Now, I'm not saying that she should file for divorce right now, but she definitely needs to file for CHILD SUPPORT and possibly SPOUSAL SUPPORT RIGHT NOW! Also, if your daughter is not currently employed or doesn't have job/career training, now would be a good time to look into that. She's got to think of what's BEST for her babies, and waiting around for some selfish guy who didn't have the decency to inform her of what's going on with him, and doesn't have the "manhood" to stick around and work things out, is just not worth waiting for, and definitely not trustworthy. If she works things out with him later, that's fine, but tell her not to wait around and see what happens or wait for him to come back...she'll waste precious time if she does. Tell her...DO NOT try to make things easier or convenient for him...he certainly doesn't care about making things easier or convenient for her and those babies! Be there for her Mom, don't bad mouth the husband, just be an ear and shoulder and offer good advise when possible. Best wishes to you, your daughter and babies!
2006-10-24 00:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by livtru_always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's better off without him, to spend her life with someone as unreliable as him, would be a disaster for her, later down the track! She'd be better to find a man who truly loves her and the children, I'd tell him to go jump in the creek, before I'd have him back! Tell her to start looking for that guy now!!!!!
2006-10-24 00:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to file for a divorce, he can be served the papers at his place of employment. Abandonment is a good reason for it if your state allows that.
She should tell her lawyer that she wants child support for all three kids, and maintenance/alimony for herself. She should tell the lawyer she wants EVERYTHING even the blood that trickles from his open throat when her lawyer cuts it!!
2006-10-24 00:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, help your daughter and you grand kids out. Worry about him later. Don't even waste your time with wondering what he is doing. Focus on your daughter and your beautiful Grand kids. That's right, I said beautiful because all grandmas say they have beautiful grand kids and your not the exception lol..........
No go on and take care of business!
2006-10-24 00:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by the one who knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its bad. The person is not a responsible one. he mus take care of his family. He should stay there for the sake of his daughters, if not for his wife. This type of people have very bad end of their lives.
2006-10-24 00:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋