My gf and I have been together just over a yr. We also live together with another roommate. On the weekend we had a petty argument+she was upset that I wasn't ready to talk. She walked out, I didn't hear from her for over 12hrs. She wouldnt answer my calls. She stayed at an ex's house over night. She said she had no-one else to turn to. She told me nothing happened. I found it hard but was ready to forgive her. Now she isn't sure about us! She says something is holding her back from getting back with me. She wants us to be slightly more independent from each other but i've already offered that. I'm sick of feeling in limbo. I either want to get back and work things out or cut loose and start moving on. Should I be understanding and just give her more time even though its really hurting me?
(By the way we are both female, as is the ex)
2006-10-23 23:58:30 · 12 answers · asked by angel74656 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would say the night with the ex has made her think that maybe you arent the one for her.
if you let her she will string you along before dumping you for someone else.
take charge, tell her that she either wants you or doesnt and she must give you a definate answer oe way or the other by a certain deadline that only you choose.
if you still havent had an answer by then move on and find someone who will respect you.
2006-10-24 00:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by graemekennedy1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the gender matters does it? I would not be happy if my boyfriend spent the night at an ex's house. I can understand takeing off for a few hours to cool down, but to spend the night at an ex's in my book is not acceptable. Most people I believe would not accept this kind of behavior.
If she can't make up her mind don't be angry with her, just let her go. It is quite obvious that you want more than she is ready for or she is not quite sure who she wants to be with. I wouldn't even worry if anything happened over at the ex's. The core problem here is she is leaveing you in limbo. If you don't like being in limbo then do something about it. Don't hate her just understand that you and her are on two separte pages right now.
Good luck to you on whatever you decide to do.
2006-10-24 07:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were not ready to talk and she is unsure about your relationship it sounds like you both have commitment problems with each other. Trust issues. This is not a good basis for a relationship. I think you should take your own time away from the situation to think about why those issues are there. You may find that you really arent mean to be together after all. I am sorry.
2006-10-24 07:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Imma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels unsure as she feels she cant communicate with you, she clearly needed to talk to you but you felt you couldnt for whatever reason. she felt cut off by you and as if you didnt care about the way she felt. why dont you have a break and both of you evaluate exactly how you feel about each other. it mite be she wont realise what she has till its gone, but do watch for the ex tho, she mite have ulterior motives. and if she does move on then she wasnt the one for you, leaving you free to get out there and find another lady who is. good luck hun.
2006-10-24 07:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she still likes her ex? U should give her a little more time but if nothing happens soon just leave her, tell her what you want!
Theres plenty more girls out there for you that wouldn't mess u about. xxx
This is a female ppl not a guy! (just thought i'd clear that up)
2006-10-24 07:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady..... the problem is , if u're looking for a potential life partner , you have to be looking for a guy in the first place.
What u r involved in right now is called Sodomy.
And God detests that!
So please repent and understand that God loves you and doesn''t want u to go astray... The world may say it's ok; but u'll be condemned for eternity (after death). THink about it... I don't think anyone in her right mind would want to spend eternity in hell.
2006-10-24 07:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Carla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no!! shes done,,, as soon as she says umm im having doubts about us... thats the sign!! cus yall been together a year and all of the sudden this petty arguement turns into her saying that shes got doubts.....man get outta this relationship while you've only wasted a year of your life with this girl!!! theres loads of women on here searching for a guy like you!!! trust me!!
2006-10-24 07:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should have a serious talk with her, and tell her your feelings, but sm limits, show her you as well count as an individual and if she will respect and understand all that, then maybe u can talk abt your relation if not, then u should really go on to find smone that can make u feel u even in a couple........ :)
2006-10-24 07:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by black_cat_heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't feeling her being committed to you, then there is trouble. Tell her that you can't live like this.
If she isn't sure .......then you guys shouldn't be together.
2006-10-24 07:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
React with an equal degree of uncertainty. As I say, fight fire with fire, or in this case uncertainty.
2006-10-24 07:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Climie Fisher's Climbing Fra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋