are you a pro or anti divorce?????
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2006-10-23 23:09:18 · 9 answers · asked by please answer this 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually I am anti marriage which solves the problem.
But if that event has alreadt occurred, then I am pro divorde.
As we proceed along our path, we change, and we do not change in the same ways, or at the same time.
Sometimes nthe change is so great that reasonable compromises are no longer possible.
There is no sense in continuing witjh a miserable restricting life, so divorce is by far the best way.
2006-10-23 23:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
When it comes to my parents I'm pro lol! Though seriously I've seen enough in my 21 years to know that they would be better seperated. I can't tell you how many times they've tried to get help from countless sources and it never works. My childhood largely consisted of being forced to listen to them fight (and often violently) because they were so loud the whole neighbourhood could hear. They don't have too many yelling matches anymore but the same issues are still fresh and my mom is constantly saying she can't deal anymore. Maybe if they had gotten divorced when I was younger I wouldn't have such a screwed up view of marriage.
Though overall I think marriages should be worked on with every inch of the couple's mind, body and soul and only quit when every option and resource has been weighed and has failed. My parents are an example of that.
So I'm neither pro nor anti.
2006-10-23 23:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nyx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cons to divorce
1) It hurts like hell (even if you don't like your spouse, it still hurts)
2) It's expensive
3) It can be very damaging to the children of the marriage
4) It is too often used as the first resort rather than the last
Pros to divorce
1) It can put an end to a very self-destroying situation
2) It can allow people to stop the power struggle and focus on more important issues (like the children of the marriage)
3) It can help heal a relationship between people. (people get along better after divorce).
4) It can be an act of strength and independence.
Personally, I'd be a hypocrite if I said I was anti divorce, but with each one, it broke my heart, and was not the 'easy way' out.
2006-10-23 23:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both! If it's an abusive relationship, whether verbally, physically or emotionally - pro. If it's a case of drifting apart, infidelity etc, I believe all other options should be sought first. Marriage counseling CAN help in some instances. Actually, on second thoughts, some abusive relationships might be salvageable with counseling as well. I do think that people tend to give up too easily these days. Divorce has become so easily accessible.
2006-10-23 23:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by bougainvillaea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ANTI!! When you stand up in the alter do you not say you'll be with that person in sickness and in health and as long as you both shall live. Why would you say something like that and then be like oh I change my mind? No you can't lie like that or go back on your word! I don't understand how people can be married for so long and then get divorced. I think that they never should have gotten married in the first place and they knew that at the time. Either that or they were too young. Some people rush into marriage or don't know what love really is and just jump into it. Then they think oh what the hell that's what divorce is for. I'm also against prenuptual agreements(spl?)-That's like saying "hey I love you right now a lot, but just in case I don't I'm making you sign this for me"???
I actually came from a mother who has been through 3 divorces, two I was living through. It crushed me and my siblings, to have to go through 2 dads. Than none and living with no father half our lives. Why would want to put your kids through that either(saying that youwere to have kids)? Making them almost live 2 separate lives, screwing up their minds like that? Getting married should be THE biggest day of anyone's lives (with the exception of giving birth). It should be a once in a lifetime experience, not 2 or three times. That's why I think that you have to truely be in love with this person. How you know is a different story. But the thought of divorce is just plain rediculous. You shouldn't get married just because everyone else is or b/c you have kids together or b/c he/she's rich or b/c you're told to. Nowadays people get married, thinking they have divorce if things don't work out. Well I think therer should be no "if" in marriage. Divorce is not just a means of breaking up, it ruins people's lives and costs so much to do so. I don't think mankind should have even made up divorce? I mean you grow up and live and learn a lot I know, but often times people do that with their spouse and then feel like they've changed and want to get out of the relationship. So what does that mean-you can't learn to work things out? Marriage does take a lot of work and responsibility, and that's why it should be taken a lot more seriously. Divorce shouldn't just be a backup plan. I think the only time a divorce is ok (but not really) is if one spouce cheated on the other. Even still...like I said they should never have gotten married if they weren't completely committed to it. ... Sorry I feel very strongly about this and it's funny you bring it up b/c I was just talking about it earlier this week. I KNOW I will never get divorced, it's just out of the question for me.
2006-10-23 23:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by cjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a pro divorce. My parents should have take divorce a lot time ago. They didn't. My brother and I didn't live in a good family environment. They were always fighting ,yelling at each other and trust me that was far from an ideal family. If they had take divorce things would be very different for all, I believe it would be better because I can't imagine how it could
be worse.
2006-10-23 23:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anti-divorce.
There are so many people who get married just for the sake of the "win", the fact that they are married, then they get divorced.
Divorce should only happen if the situation is un-bearable. Abuse, cheating (there should be an allotted time to try and get over this), chronic drug addiction or some other unchangeable situation. It is a commitment, not a ride at the fair. Sometimes it is not going to be fun, and sometimes roller coasters make you puke.
2006-10-23 23:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Hatem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pro. My ex had the misunderstanding that I was going to put up with him being a member of the I. W.W. Club (I won't work) and cheating with other women. He found out different.
2006-10-24 00:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anti divorce.....
for me, i just want one guy for the rest of my life....
the only one, the first & the last guy.......................
2006-10-23 23:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by pisces09 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋