you think you know someone and then one day they just change
i was in a relationship for 7 yrs with this guy only on our 7yr anniversary i found out he got some girl pregnant but he still loved me thats what he said and i never thought he can do that to us
i decided to end it and i became single for 4 months then.....
came this wonderful guy
i've known him for the past 5 yrs
he's my brother's best friend
but.....................
he is married and i know his wife and one other time she was complaining about her husband not spending time with her
they dont have kids
i know he will not leave his wife for me and i don't want him to
even if they r on the brink of divorce
i love him and i'm not dating him because some girl took my ex bf
this is not revenge
i'm just having the time of my life and enjoying myself
2006-10-23 22:32:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-23 22:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by curiousmode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand how you feel as I have been in a similar situation before.
You may not like the questions I ask but asking them to yourself will probably give you a good guideline as to how you feel and what to do...
1) What do you want out of the rship with your bro's friend?
2) Yeap, if he divorces his wife to be with you, he can do that to you too you know... besides, they are not divorced yet. Do you really want to be a home breaker?
3) If you do not want an ending with him and there is a possibilty you can become a homebreaker when his wife finds out that you are dating him, is it worth it to take the risk?
4) Would you want to do unto others what you dun wnat others to do unto you? You have been through the hurt, you know how it feels...
5) There are a whole lot of other people out there without a burden of a WIFE, isn't it simpler to be with them?
6) Please, your ex and tat girl can also say.. they are not looking to break up your happy relationship with your ex, they were also having a time of their life and enjoying themselve. Are you going to use this excuse as well?
7) Is he worth it? If someone saw you, it would nt just be between you and him, his wife and your bro would also be involved... do you really want your love life to get so messy? You still have control now.. once found out, you will not have control over what happens next.
2006-10-24 18:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey being with a married man is never easy! who am I to probably answer the question but one thing is I didn't know he was married when we first got involved.
that said you sound like you want more as we all do and this isn't good on any level. I can't imagine 'knowing' the wife or him being friends within any circle i socialize in that is dangerous for you
you sound like a pretty smart woman and i believe are hurt from your past relationship and he has been conveninent and guess what you and we all do it are being convenient for that married man .. don't do this sort of double talk on my part but i know how difficult it is and i never have to see her much
you can't tell me it doesn't hurt at times i know better
2006-10-24 03:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tatally stop this sort of relationship. As what you claimed that he is married and you also knew his wife, so you can see the problems ahead if you go on in this relationship. Come on ! plenty of men in this world. Be a little patience and I'll trust you can get a better man, dont worry.
2006-10-23 23:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it is okay to enjoy your self you have the right to. But i would be careful you don't want to pass up anything good because your stuck on a guy that is married and having his own things going on that he should be working out with his wife.
2006-10-23 22:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your playing with fire! Your gonna burn!Or your gonna burn somebody else!
I will never even think of spending time with a married man, because I think its VERY VERY LOW!
He doesn't belong to you, why do you do it to her?
Maybe she is trying so hard to make it work but you are f#@#$ it up, because he is with YOU and YOU blind him from the truth!
That's bad!
How did you feel when your BF cheated on you and you didn't even have a ring on your finger. She does, he does, THEY!!!!!
Hope you make a wise choice, because he is married.
PLEASE DO.
If you are meant to be together someday, it will happen when the time is right, but for now they are married and if you are a good person you don't want to be responsible for a devorce, do you????
2006-10-23 23:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by confussie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Put your foot in her shoes. In my opinion any woman who goes after a married man especially she confined you to tell you that she thinks he is sleeping around. do think cuz you have known him for 5 YEARS HE WILL NOT THE NEXT GIRL WITH A NICE T@A. I think you are hurt and do not want to feel so it easier to go to the next man.good luck
2006-10-23 22:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are as dirty as the other b!tch that screwed your man ! And they say men are the scum! HA! Women are just as bad, most men just dont care enough to pay attention to the inconsistencies in their stories ! I hope his wife finds out and beats your sl(_)tty @SS ! Trailer Trash !!!
2006-10-24 00:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on his wife with you based on the time and the beyond friendship you share. Let him go
2006-10-23 22:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the time of your life your entitled to enjoy yourself just dont do it at the expensive of someones marriage.
Go out meet new people you need time one your own to find yourself again
2006-10-23 22:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find someone who is available to date you. Remember how you felt when you found out what was going on. How do you think she feels when she finds out what is going on? Why would you do this to someone else???
2006-10-23 23:23:45 · answer #11 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋