My mum had suffered a little with her heart a while back and it no longer causes her great discomfort, however she suffered a brain hemorage earlier this year, to wich we nearly lost her. She was desperatley advised and begged to stop smoking and drink less. But 4 months on and after lots of promises being made and broken, i have once again caught her smoking. I know she's my mum and that she is an adult, but i cant help but feel that at me being nearly 24, that i fear for her health, far more then she does herself. I honestly thought that after all the tears and fear brought to her attention after the time she was caught before, that she would kick the habbit. I had been encouraging her by saying shes doing well, and that were all proud of her and we got into a routine of spending nights in watching films with the money she had saved through not smoking - well so i thought. I am desperate to help her, but how can i help her more?id appreciate any advise, please....
2006-10-23 22:07:54 · 7 answers · asked by Need_to_know 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
My mother had a stroke when I was 24 and was also told to quit smoking we encouraged her to do so but she just wouldn't. I know you fear for your mums life as I do but sometimes you just have to stand back and let loved ones do what they want even if you know its damaging them. My mum still smokes 10 years later and although I wish she would stop but its her life. Sorry I couldn't wave a magic wand.
2006-10-23 22:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by blon_dee1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sug I understand what you are saying but you can not live your mum's life for her. She is an adult. I know that you love her and you want her to kick the habit, but that is a choice that she has to make, not you, despite all the encouragement that you have given her. It is obvious that she does not want to quit despite your and her doctors best efforts.
I would suggest trying these web sites listed below and print the info out for her. Let her read them and maybe (even go as far as shocking graphics of smokers lung or someone with a tracheotomy due to smoking). It may open her eyes to the dangers of smoking. I do wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-24 02:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by lizheart011902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Had A Hard Time Quitting Until Doc Gave Me Bupropion (Brand Names Are Wellbutrin and Zyban)
Helped ALOT, Took It For A Week While Smoking Following Week I Was Able To Cut Down To 3 Cigs A Day (From a pack and a half) and then quit the next week.
2006-10-23 22:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by TRAXIC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is difficult, I have smoked since I was 17 and have been begged by all my kids etc to give up for years, I tried and failed each time, I then bought a book whilst out shopping, it was 'Allen Carrs easy way to give up smoking' it is written by a bloke who smoked up to 100 cigs a day at times, and how he tried everything to give up, he encourages you to smoke whilst reading his book, he never says you should give up either. What he does is he tells you about his uphill struggle and he just KNOWS what it's like to be trapped, he has been an inspiration to me and I gave up smoking when I finished the book and my life and health is sooooo much better, I don't feel I have 'given' up on anything or I am 'losing' out on smoking, buy this book for your mum and ask her to read it, tell her I would have walked out on my family if they had made me choose between them and my cigs, that was how addicted I was!! if I can do it then she can, this guy just knows how to help people like me, he makes so much sense and Knows what we have been going through for years. Good luck.
2006-10-23 22:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if she doen't want to stop you won't make her. If it is her one pleasure in life and she is not afraid it will kill her sooner than she needs to go then she will keep smoking. My mum is still alive 25 years after a heart attack because she never smoked and my wifes mum has passed away because she couldn't stop no matter what! She knows what she is doing and still chooses to smoke!
2006-10-23 22:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rob S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to send her to yoga class. that is a perfect solution . tell her to read the book "You can win" . i am sure this will be a great help to your mom . sit with her on a nice evening and consult her . ask her true wishes and make her fill that you are her true son/daughter and you are the one to rescue her . go on asking questions and she will tell you everything .
2006-10-23 22:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can help your mum is your mum. She has to want to do it for herself.
2006-10-23 22:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋