is it a good idea to refuse friendship with your ex?

Question

why or why not?

Answer 1

Is this the same guy who cheated on you? Forget him. True you don't want to burn bridges, but it's also true that you need to choose your friends carefully because the people you associate with is a direct reflection on you. You need to decide if this guy is a liability or a true friend.

Answer 2

That depends- on a lot of things.

If one of you still has feelings, but the other wants a platonic "relationship", it might be a Good idea to refuse friendship coz someone is gonna end up hurt!

If one or both of you are in relationships, see how ur partner feels about it coz it might just cause trouble in the relationship and/ or the friendship.

If neither of u are in relationships, or your partners dont mind you having a friendhip with each other then there's nothing wrong with Accepting a friendship with the ex.

Answer 3

Here is a simple formula:



Add up all the good times you had (with no affection involved).

Add up all of the open, kind, intriguing, instructive, supportive conversations you SHARED between the BOTH of you.......add up all of the common goals towards life, friends, neighbors, others and spirituality........add up the times you were always there for each other...........add up the times you could absolutely DEPEND on each other...........add up the patience you both have for/with each other........


The break-up and any harsh words can be discounted against a VERY high compatibility rating of other virtues.

If you were good friends before..........good for each others families and friends...........good for the future of your community and/or a good role-model for others to follow......

THEN the friendship WAS and CAN BE a good friendship..... minus the intimate affection usually reserved for a "couple".




If you weren't REALLY good friends THEN.........maybe some "new" people would be a better choice.

Answer 4

It really depends on the reasons for ending your previous relationship. Are you guys still in good terms? Can you draw the line between friendship and relationship??

If a friendship with your ex is going to affect your current relationship...then my advise is "no".

Cheers..

Answer 5

You should never burn a bridge down. I feel that it would not hurt to remain friends with your ex. It is always best to have many friends, and in case you need to you can always talk nice or have coffee instead of just in goring or worse with each other

Answer 6

My opinion is and ex is an ex for a reason.It is hard to put everything under the bridge so I am not friends with my ex.Too much baggage.Who needs it.

Answer 7

Depend on the type of break up but then again revenge is a dish best served cold

Answer 8

i think in most cases maintaining a friendship with a ex is not such a good idea......you find that if you had a long relationship with them....that feelings come into play to often and it is hard to involve them with your new partners.......
also your new partner may not be comfortable with socialising with your ex.......

Answer 9

it all depends on ur relationship wid him/her. but most of da time its gud 2 remain frenz wid tht person..many ppl have their ex as their best frend...most of da time bcuz u no tht person well.....it also depends on the type of the breakup...if it was a mutual,easy one...then go 4 the frendship...if it was bad & full of anger,etc...then umm...think about it twice.

Answer 10

it's always good to be in friendly or at least neutral . ego's are not good. that door is left open , is better, for the future ;; not burning bridges forever