In a recent post a gay women claimed being gay was her very essence. I think alot of gays would say the same. I don't think a lot of heteros would say their sexuality is their very essence.
2006-10-23 20:31:53 · 18 answers · asked by hankthecowdog 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Being gay is more than your sexuality... it's a cultural thing. I personally don't give a damn what anyone thinks and I certainly won't entertain some narrow minded heterosexist idea that we must conform to the way they (hetros) want us to live our lives. The world is a diverse place and it should be embraced.
2006-10-23 21:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by joelyboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you missed the point completely. I was saying that to say you hate the "sin" (being gay, which I am) also means to hate me. I did not choose to be gay. It is more than sex, just as straight relationships are about a whole lot more than sex.
The problem is the straight world that defines homosexuality as just a sex act. Who you love and who fills your soul... that's not defined by a sexual encounter. It is a large part of what defines you as a person. Or, do you not have that type of bond with your partner? If not, I hope you one day do find the person who does complete you in this way.
Does that help clarify?
And, btw, I said that I am a lot more than my sexuality. Why did you not read those words that were included my question?
PS - I don't think a lot of heteros are fired despite good performance just because their boss found out they were gay. I also don't believe that heteros are called abominations, beaten, treated as second class citizens, or accused of choosing their sexuality. Really, do you not understand being out is about no longer being treated as second class citizens. It's not about wanting to share our sexuality with the world. It really is that simple.
2006-10-24 03:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Alex62 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being gay for me is just a state of being, like having blue eyes.
My sex drive and the manner in which I express my sexuality is not a 'gay' issue, but an "Ashley" issue.
Sex is only a small part of my life.
I am proud of the way in which I have dealt with my homosexuality, the way I have stood up for equality and my right to be respected. That is a reflection of my character. My being gay is not an issue of character.
2006-10-24 03:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ROFLMAO!!
It isn't "all about being gay", it's about being yourself in spite of the people who, like you, seem to think that there is something wrong with being yourself. I won't apologise for being who I am. You can either accept me for who I am, or you can leave. I really don't care which.
This area is set up specifically to provide understanding and answer legitimate, not hostile/hateful questions for and to the LGBT community. If it makes you uncomfortable, there are 100+ other sections you can go.
2006-10-24 08:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is interesting that you have taken it apon yourself to speak on behalf of the entire "straight" community. Most people I know, do not necessarily call themselves heterosexual. They just are, and assume that everyone else is too, unless pointed out, that one is, something else. (bisexual, omnisexual, homosexual, etc etc)
Also, it depends again on the person. I have a few friends who are pagan, and who have been "married" in a traditional "heterosexual" union, and feel that their choice to love a member of the opposite sex is an essential part of who they are. I guess, you never asked yourself, perhaps people are just people and some people are more "vocal" about who they are and then there are other's who call themselves a human first, and then everything else comes after.
Also I have to point out that this category IS called "Lesbian, Gay, Transgender, Bisexual", so a statement or question about being gay as an essential part of one's being is the place where it is going to be discussed.
2006-10-24 04:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Orditz 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am WAY MORE than just being gay! That is only a small inkling of who I am in the overall scheme of things!
2006-10-24 09:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that all gays feel that their only about being gay I believe that most of them are proud that they accept who they are regardless what society says they need to be. I've had friends who tried to hide it because they were ashamed and my friends who are out and open flunt it because they're proud and thats not all their about.
2006-10-24 03:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you could walk in my shoes, and see the things I've seen and heard the "hateful' things I've heard. YOU WOULD BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND. Not a damn thing wrong with feeling proud of who you are and what you have been through to get to that point.
2006-10-24 09:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by arcabear69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it o.k. to be aware of yourself on sexual basis? It is however connected to spirituality, so maybe the homos are trying to express that. You may not see heteros doing that because they are not stigmatized by society on that level.
2006-10-24 03:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Namaste 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I did not read the post but if that was said, let us be in pray together for our sister. She is obviously being deceived by the devil. We should not feel like anything is our essence other than being like Christ.
2006-10-24 03:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋