We dated for two years and talked about marriage. We saw each other every day and I thought we were best friends. He told me every day that I was the only girl for him, that he loved me all of his heart, and that he would never leave me. He dumped me over the phone while he was on vacation in a 20 min. conversation. He said he would call me when he got back home. It has been 2 months and I know he is home, he still has not contacted me. I am smart, very attractive, nice, and loving. I treated him and his family very well. I did everything I could to make him happy. I just do not understand. How can someone do that to another person? I am not perfect but I do know that I did not deserve to be treated this way. Should I try to contact him to get closure? I cry constantly... I do not know what to do. Am I crazy to still be depressed about this guy? I try to let it go and forget, but I can't. There are so many questions in my head about what went wrong. I feel so rejected and confused.
2006-10-23 20:30:47 · 6 answers · asked by tanglo02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Definitely not,and by no means is there anything wrong with you,for one that was a punk move he made with you by breaking it off over the phone.Two possible reasons I could think of , one may he was a little mental and like abusive women(you know some guys are into weird stuff like that)and this you were not or may be he found out he liked guys. Oh, I'm sorry there is three possibilities , maybe he is just a fool and will realize what a big mistake he made when it is to late . You seem like a very sweet caring girl , don't waste a tear a thought another moment of your time on this loser (sorry)there are alto of good christian men out there that would treat you with the love and respect that you deserve just give it a little time ,watch you ll find him, have faith and you ll see .
2006-10-23 21:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by kimberly f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lovesickness is a horrible thing. It also proves that you TRULY love someone. It may hurt, but he may have done the right thing. He's probably seeing someone else, so instead of CHEATING ON YOU..he broke up with you appropriately. This is an assumption though because you don't know the truth. So for the sake of closure....ask him. In the most non-emotional way possible though. Just so he could at least have the dignity to admit the problem with the break-up.
Now you being attractive, nice and loving, and all that you've said may not be the reason he broke up, you're personality in general could have deterred him, or he didn't truly love you like he thought, or just pretending out of some obligation. Just because you SEEM perfect, won't make you the perfect person for anyone....who you are as a person could possibly conflict with his, it happens a lot, and for him he possibly felt like he got into something he couldn't be 100% in.
But call and ask (without emotion, just a casual hey how you doin, before you go, cause i don't wanna waste your time, i just need closure to this, i just want to know why.....that's all, i won't be mad i won't fuss, i just want to know the reason.) I mean yea you might be mad, you'll feel sad, but for the sake of trying to get the answer, barking at him with stuff isn't gonna get it out of him. And whatever answer he gives, you can take it from there and begin the process of moving on...or depending on the answer....you never know there may be a solution....and heh..you can ask it on answers again :). Good luck to ya.
2006-10-23 20:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. But DON'T call him. He didn't even have the guts to tell you to your face. I don't know how old you are, but you will learn that some guys will say whatever they think you want to hear.
You may never know. My guess is that is that you'll find someone, who really loves you if you give it time. Right now, you feel sad, abandomed, and devastated. It takes time to mend a broken heart. Go out with your friends. You need to stay busy. I know it hurts, but you will survive this . We've all had our hearts broken at some point or another. And, our hearts do heal with time.
2006-10-23 20:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by maggiebridget09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've already gained from my experience that it is not worth torturing oneself with the "WHY ME?" and "WHY DID IT HAPPEN TO ME?" question because sometimes things happened because they have to happen. People treat others the way they're not meant to be treated; and some questions are not meant to be answered at all.
I can emphatize with you on wanting a closure but you cannot find closure by seeking him and presenting to him the "WHYs" because he himself cannot probably give you an elucidation.
What I can advise you is to simply accept what happened and live your life without him.
2006-10-24 00:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Alias G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes call him and demand an answer for his decision then you can deal with whatever has happened and get on with your life. Don't delay ring him now and get it out in the open
2006-10-23 21:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No, move on.
2006-10-23 20:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋