If you were with someone for 4 years and they started talking to women behind your back, what would you think? Exspecially if they are sneaking around?
2006-10-23 20:26:43 · 11 answers · asked by aoki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's nothing wrong with your guy talking to other women. I guess it's just a question of why he is "sneaking around" to do it.
It could be perfectly innocent.
If, in the past, you have gotten all jealous and upset when he talks to other women then he may just be trying to keep from upsetting you again. if he is just being friendly then really the problem is yours not his. Its a trust issue.
If he is flirting and being a bit touchy feely then tell him that part makes you uncomfortable not so much that he is talking with them.
Unfortunately if its not innocent then all you can do its make it clear you wont stand for it. It might deter him.
I gotta say though, I'm married (10 years now) and both me and my husband still talk to guys/girls that the other doesn't know. I am also the kind of person who is flirty without even thinking about it. (I've noticed I even come across as flirting when talking to men that I dint find at all attractive) its not deliberate and my husband has in the past expressed that it makes him uncomfortable and I try to be aware of it. But he trusts me and now knows its just the way I come across.
I really hope I helped
2006-10-23 21:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be a little nervous about it..might be nothing but very well could be something especially if they're sneaking around...I'd confront the individual about it and express your concern about the situation not in a threatening matter though express concern for what has been going on
2006-10-24 03:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by digdoggy299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think "wow, this ******* bastard is sneaking around behind my back, and I will not put up with it!" I would be devastated and very angry, but I would get to the bottom of it. If my boyfriend chooses to hurt me, he's got to go, but I would want to find out exactly what he was doing before I decided to break up with him......just to be 100% sure I wasn't jumping to conclusions.
2006-10-24 03:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is on the way for change. He needs talk with somebody new, fresh exploring other people, see the differences to make some decision.
You are probable history or be soon. Sorry, life is life.
2006-10-24 03:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral Sex to completion, and not just in bed, outdoors, in the car movies, in front of a porno at home, basically anywhere he wants it, Anal sex, if you are not doing it...get with it or someone will and you will lose him, BDSM, public sex, suggest dogging...loads of sites on the net..basically a happy man does not stray.give him sex whenever and wherever he wants xxxx you will be his Queen I promise you....oh! Ignore the religious nutters and fat puritan bitter singletons that post and the nerdy guys..they are creepy xx
2006-10-24 04:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sneaking around is never good. Is he worth keeping? If so confront him about it. Maybe this is fixable.
2006-10-24 03:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out, if he is hiding stuff, then you don't need to be with him. That is not the way to live. Get out now and you will be much happier. Good luck
2006-10-24 10:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say goodbye and move on they are no longer interested in you. I m sorry I know that is difficult to hear.Good Luck and god bless.
2006-10-24 07:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think they are cheating... If they can not share with you who they are talking to and they do it mainly when you are not around they do not need to be talking to that other person!
2006-10-24 03:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Shaunna H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if after 4 yrs no committement you should know they dont want to be in it for the long run.
2006-10-24 04:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋