I was at my sisters this weekend and one of her neighbors came over. His wife left him for his uncle and she isnt all there as well and they have a baby together. Anyways he is now living by himself with no water and no power. He hasnt had a bath in god knows how long and is living off of Dorotios and hot pepsi. The inside of his house is piled full of trash and you can smell it from his driveway. I feel so bad for him because I know he doesnt have the mental capacity to take care of himself. I dont know what to do. I have thought of calling social services and talking to them about it, but Im extremly conflicted about the situation. I dont know if its my business to butt in to his situation. I dont want him hauled off and put into a home but he is the type who needs help because there is no way he can do it on his own.
2006-10-23 19:56:28 · 9 answers · asked by eeyore_0816 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You really need to help him by calling social service they will do the best for him that can be done. Unless he has any family or friends that you can call first? You knowing how he is living and he has mental problems now that you know your involved in trying to get him the best help that you can. Either call the family or social service. It is all you can do.
2006-10-23 20:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by sammy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever made people feel as though being a good samaritan is wrong should live in his or her own filth. You are concerned and that is good. Yes call social services as it is in his best interests. It really is. If he cannot look after himself then he shouldn't have to. Facilities are great these days. They may relocate him to a shared home where a worker comes a couple of days a week to check that things are running smoothly, that he is getting meals and bathing. It is the best in the long run.
Please do not stop being concerned for others, this is a good way to be.
2006-10-23 20:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
By calling social services, I don't think you will be butting in his life, but showing some concern. Sometimes, people just need some assistance during their down times. By asking for help, he wont necessarily be hauled off somewhere, sometimes, they assign him a caretaker etc. after his needs have been evaluated. Just think, by leaving him alone, I am not sure he will be better off. People might come to his home and rob him, hurt him, or he may acquire some sort of an illness from his poor eating habits and living conditions. Its a tough call, but the humane thing to do is not to just walk by and watch the problem escalate, but to TRY to make a difference.
2006-10-23 20:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by kutingtingting 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real sad and you should do something. There is a home in my neighborhood that takes care of these types of disabilities. They can function somewhat but need 'guidance' and they have friends living there who are similar. It seems a better alternative to how he's living now. You might introduce this to him and help him clean up a bit if he'll let you and you can introduce the social services person to him so he's not completely in the dark about it. Good luck.
2006-10-23 20:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to call social services and get him some help. There is nothing wrong with that. If they take him to a home, it will be for the best. Maybe they will get him a home care attendant to help him out. You said yourself that he needs some help and he cant do it on his own. I hope and pray you do the right thing and help him out. Take Care!
2006-10-23 20:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad to call social services, as much as I hate to say this, they are there for these reasons. They can help him in getting back on his feet financially or even help him with assisted living housing. He needs help, and it is very wonderful of you to be so concerned.
2006-10-23 20:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by lrc125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you care about people in general, then you must do something. Just do not put yourself into a dangerous situation! Make some phone calls and see what kind of help is available. Keep these activities to yourself don't tell your neighbor!
Peace out, BDS
2006-10-23 20:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by big daddy stretch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a moral obligation to report this man to the authorities so they can determine if he needs help. They don't remove people from their homes because they are poor housekeepers. They will only remove him if they are sure that he needs help in caring for himself. You are a caring person for showing concern. This person obviously looks like he needs help, and lucky for him, you are just the person to get that help for him.
2006-10-23 20:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's happy let him live
2006-10-23 19:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋