My girlfriend and I have been together for two years and a great two years, last month we got into a heated fight and she said she needed space and I was stupid and didn't respect that and that pushd her away more but about a two weeks ago we met up for first time and it was great laughed talked cried and it led to other things then a week ago same thing happened and she saying that she still confused etc, so last friday my idiot friend decided to talk to her and tell her things that i shared with him about me and her and she just calls me up saying that it's over completely but she still loves me and really cares about me and all but if it was meant to be then it will happen just not now? we met up following day and she said its really hard for her to do and she was angry and upset but stil sticking to it being over between us...whats everyones opinion what should i do she's the love of my life i'm lost without her and she knows this I want her back in my life, is there any hope?????
2006-10-23 19:53:44 · 8 answers · asked by digdoggy299 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It wasn't really much what my friend told her it was basically that she should stop playing with my mind and make up her mind already and that it was wrong for me and her to have sex together...she was very angry that i shared with him about the sex thing...I know nothing is going on between them and there are no othe guys she is seeing either im 100% sure about those my friend only had good intentions but really just messed it all up she said that if that never happened she was almost ready to come back to me again to see how it would work but now she said that that pushed her over the edge and she said she's done with it.
2006-10-23 19:56:20 · update #1
well she pretty much told me saturday that it's over between us and she is absolutely refusing to hang out at all now , won't even talk on phone...she said possibly in the future but not now....i told her to just take some time and cool off.
2006-10-23 19:58:29 · update #2
Give her the time and space that she wants, but don't let her think that you have forgotten her even if that isnt possible. Call her up every so often just to see how things are, but not once a day! You don't want to smother her! Let her calm down about what has happened for a little while and maybe she will remember that she has most likely shared things that have happened between you two with some/one of her friends. It's human nature to share joy and pain with those they care about. No one can tell the future, but if you are patient yet attentive she may warm back up to you.
2006-10-23 20:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by passion8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she said at the beginning after the big blow out that she was confused, I'd say their is something else maybe bothering her about the relationship. After being together for 2 years the infatuation period between a couple is pretty much gone. Females usually are looking for another step forward. Not sure how old you two are, so I guess that would matter of course.
Maybe she's looking or wanting more of a commitment of some kind. If you truly do love her, I would have a real serious talk with her, and listen to exactly what she is really NEEDING from you. Oh yea, you wouldn't want her going around takin to someone about YOUR sex life would ya? Women hate that!! Good luck!!!
2006-10-23 20:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although she is right about the fact that u shouldn't share your personal relationship with other people, I can't help to think that she is looking for an excuse to really end your relationship and she happened to find a convenient one.
I am a woman and if I told a guy to give me space because I am confused, it means it's been over long before I actually said it was.
If I were u, I wouldn't hold my breath and expect anything in return. I would just try to move on with my life as best as I can.
2006-10-23 20:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it's over. Women get over relationships before it's actually over. That's why men are dumbfounded and can't realize it's over(they don't accept it, because they haven't gone through the emotional phases). The only exception is when a guy screws a girl over. She may be confused and such, but she has already moved on. Of course, like anything in life, this is not 100%, but you can pretty much count on it.
2006-10-23 19:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is always hope. u need to hang out with her and show her that u have changed and that u will respect her space and wen u guys get back together u really do need to respect her space or else she will break up with u again and chances r she wont give u another chance
2006-10-23 19:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay patient and give her plenty of space and time If its meant to be it will be and there are others out there if not.don't wrap your whole life up around one person.life is too short and noone knows what tommorrow will bring.
2006-10-23 20:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience, if she loves ya, things will work out eventually...she said space, that doesnt mean its over forever.
2006-10-23 19:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need some professional help.
2006-10-23 21:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋