Why is it that you can give someone else good advice......?

Question

when you try to figure things out for yourself you can never think of what to do, but when someone else is in the same situation or a similar situation the answer comes so easily? It seems like I can give other people the best advice I can think of but when it comes to my own situations I draw complete blanks.

Answer 1

Because we always know the right way to go... but unfortunately, the right way is the hard way and we dont want to have to face that alone...So we ask for advice for re conformation before we continue on that hard road...

Answer 2

I guess it's because when u give advice to someone else, u are not emotionally invested in that person or their situation, even though u may be going thru or have gone thru the same thing yourself. To u, they are just strangers at best and u tend to be more rational when giving your advice to them.
When I give advice, it's usually about a situation I have gone thru myself. I avoid answering the questions I have no personal experience with.

Now, if only we can practice what we preach...

Answer 3

In my opinion i think that we all think about the situation more when we are in that situation. In our own minds we try to make everything perfect so nothing goes wrong. but when someone else is in that situation you don't really think about what will happen, whats the out come of this advise and so on and so forth. subconsciously we think to our self; "whys this happening to me, this can't be happening, how did i get myself here, etc." but that's why we got good friends to surround us to help us through life obstacles in life.

Answer 4

You're not thinking objectively, but thinking emotionally when it comes to yourself. Next time a situation comes up, take a step back and think what advice you would give. Eventually, it will come natural.

Answer 5

When we are in a situation we have a lot of stress and we think on it too long and can't see the whole problem anymore. We have made it bigger than it already is sometimes. Others see the whole picture and are able to see what we have picked apart or enlarged. Sometimes it takes an outsider to see our oversights.

Answer 6

I experience this all the time. I am a psychologist. Other people's situation and motives and needs are clear to me. If I'm involved, I have trouble sorting the dynamics.. It is an emotional response and sometimes fear or anxiety causing the knowledge to block. Usually intuition is correct.

Answer 7

because you dont know the whole story on yahoo answers and things are more complicated when its real life, and you know your own real life, not everyone elses. there are always little things that will complicate things in life that you will most likely not post on yahoo answers. that and you dont want to **** up your own life, with someone else even if your heart is in the best interest you will never know the outcome all you know is the advice you gave them and with your life its alot more than that simple

Answer 8

Frankly you have nothing to lose when you share advice especially to people you have no personal connections with. It's either they accept it or not. While, if we apply them on ourselves, there is always a pause to consider ones' sole responsibility over one's own actions. We become subjective .That's why we seek other people's advice especially from close friends and family for support and ...objectivity.

Answer 9

It's like the old adage: Those who can't, teach.

I am always asking myself the same question. Maybe because our own emotions, fears, etc. cloud our judgment when it comes to our own actions.

Answer 10

We all know what to do deep down inside of us. It is called a gut feeling. Now you can choose to ignore it or use it. I have found most of the time it is correct.