How do you get over resentment in a relationship?

Answer 1

You dont just get over it,you have to deal with it.
Resentment exists because:
1. You think theres something you shouldnt have forgiven
so easily.
2. You think theres something you couldve done better.
3. You think that youre not getting anything out of the
relationship,especially you feel like youve put in a lot of efforts
to it.

The question is : what is that ''something'' to you??
Just gota face it and if you have but failed,maybe you just havent found the real reason why youre in the relationship.
Good luck!

Answer 2

that is a little question with a BIG answer...

resentment, really, depends on what it was..you have to figure out why your have this feeling, then you have to share it with that person, and even though they didnt know it, say sorry... saying sorry will make you feel better and rid yourslef of the guilt associated with it. If you two are very close you will be able to talk it out. Then after the talk it takes time.

Now if the resentment is over something very brutal, hurtful, spiteful, that totally hurt you completely. Then you have to tell the person how you feel and why you feel that way.. You should also say that it bothered you so much that you are heading toward dislike. Now, I can say that sometimes you cant get over something that is hurtful and sometimes it kills a relationship, the other person must be willing to agree that they hurt you and are willing to help you recover from what they have done.

Answer 3

I wish I had a magic answer to that, since I am struggling with that myself right now. I have realized, though, that the reason I am becoming so resentful is that he won't talk to me when I tell him what is wrong. He just says nothing or says he hears me, then nothing. It makes me so angry I want to rip his head off, then I become resentful and distant. All you can do is try to communicate how you feel, and if she doesn't respond after you trying several times ..... what is the point in continuing the relationship. That is where I am right now.

Answer 4

Nothing kills a relationship faster than resentment. You must share your feelings even if you think you may cause someone pain or anger. Once you share your feelings, you are then free to make whatever choices you need to without guilt or resentment. Get yourself out of this situation before it eats your relationship up. Be true to yourself, and be honest with your partner...Good luck.

Answer 5

If you are still in that relationship, tell it to the person who caused you the hurt, explain why you have resentment and advise what you want to do about it, an apology from him/her or merely letting him/her know. Being honest in a relationship includes being open with your feelings and taking action on it - either to stay hurt or forget about it and move on.

Answer 6

First of all if it s over thhen just move on...There is no reason the waste good energy on resentment or revenge... second,if your still in the relationship and your going to harbor it. Then you have to choose whether to stay or go...Either way you still have to move past it not waste your energy on it...Good luck..Liifes short,yada,yada,yada...

Answer 7

time and distance is the only thing I know of besides turning it all over to god but even then it takes time. there is no fast cure or quick fixes.and you definetly have to adjust your thinking process to over come the negativity and carry positive thoughts.

Answer 8

Redirect yourself. Find something else that is positive about the relationship.

Answer 9

resentment festers and grows I reckon

Answer 10

time