what can i do to discipline her. she has a stepdad which is strict and spanks his children when they did something wrong. what can i do so there will be no conflicts between me & my husband. i can't take verbal abuse but what else can i do to discipline my kid without spanking & verbal abuse
2006-10-23 19:30:26 · 7 answers · asked by a friend who might help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can love her, hug her and talk with her. Hitting is wrong.
2006-10-23 19:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ozz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a great course called Love& logic. It helped me alot with my autistic & ADHD child. He went from "out of control" to "well- behaved" after I impletemented the suggestions in the course. There is a web site on-line www.loveandlogic.com , but it is better if you can find someone in your area that teaches it. Try calling your local school to see if it is offered in your area. It teaches parents to set limits & allows consequences to teach life lessons. It would be a good idea for you to check it out & decide for yourself if you think this program would be right for you. I have seen it help many parents. You are right, spanking doesn't usually work, it usually cause resentment in the long run. Good luck & don't give up! It sounds like you are half-way there already.
2006-10-23 19:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by winsribbons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing the timeout thing AND taking away her favorite game/tv show/toy. If she won't stay in her timeout for 5 consecutive minutes, keep forcing her to do her timeout for 5 mintues.. even if it takes 3 hours for her to sit there for 5 minutes. After she does that, (and she will eventually because she knows mommy will always catch her and put her back) tell her exactly what it is she did wrong and why it was wrong.
2006-10-23 19:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't allow the step-dad to use his abusive discipline on YOUR DAUGHTER!!! He can do that with his OWN kids...not YOURS!!! She is probably angry already and seeking attention from you. I would be gentle and maybe take away something she likes or time-out. DON'T ALLOW SOMEONE ELSE TO SPANK YOU CHILD....PLEASE!!!
2006-10-23 19:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 5 yrs old they are aware enough to have privileges taken away from them that will make them think about what they did to get that privilege taken away.
2006-10-23 19:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by kaikaehu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At five years old, she probably has games she likes, TV shows she watches, friends she plays with. Deprive her of those things when she misbehaves.
2006-10-23 19:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things that she enjoys away... send her to bed early.
2006-10-23 19:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by looking for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋