she is bi&we've been thnkng about having a 3-way4some time now. The opportun. hasn't arrisen yet, of course he will not have intercourse w/me,I will just be making love2her&2him2 a degree. I am somewhat curious&somewhat anxious,will I feel like a 3rd wheel? The woman (I wll call her July)&her husb.(I will call him Pete)both care deeply about me&I know they will do everything2make me feel at ease. Still I have some concerns. (FYI Pete is totally monogomous&had a vasect.) He knws tht his wife is bi&has givn her the freedom2explore tht side of herself. She has tld me tht she'd be dng this for him not so much for hrself. His reasns4wntng ths r very valid. Will our feelings twrds eachother,incl.Peter,change? Or am I just worrying2much&shld just let it happen when it happens? I shld note tht I hve no moral qualms about seeing her, as we jst wnt2enjoy1another+it's all about love. I should also note tht this is the perf. arrgmnt f. me4sev.reasons. I am not able2hve a whle relationsh.Lng stry
2006-10-23 19:29:04 · 12 answers · asked by Crissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what is love anyway does anybody love anybody anyway
2006-10-23 19:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by wanttolpve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be very awkward being the "extra" woman in a threesome. I'm bisexual and I've never done it without having sex with the man. I've also never had a successful experience with a friend. The feelings always change. I'm not sure that they always change for the worse. I have had couples invite me to move in with them but that wasn't what I wanted. If I had wanted the same thing they did, it could have been great. I can't imagine that you will feel comfortable with a man there, considering that you are a lesbian. I know I always had problems when I played with couples where I was only attracted to one party. It might not be such an issue for you though because no one expects you to want Pete.
2006-10-24 02:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends whether you know what you want or are prepared to accept. I once lived with 2 gay ladies and we ended up having a sexual relationship. Only one of the ladies was bi the other gay only. All was good at first, however after a while things soured as the gay lady was getting jealous over the whole relationship. It ended up the three of us all going our seperate ways, which was a shame as we were all good mates. I think one of the main things to be careful of is to ensure all emotions are kept in check at all times. Go for it if it feels right but be careful.
2006-10-24 02:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fine! The biggest problem would be if Pete gets feelings for you! When dealing with a 3some, you have to make sure everyone completely trusts eachother 100%. You don't want it to feel arkward after or ruin your relationship with her.
But if you want to I say go right ahead....could become a regular thing!
2006-10-24 02:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Suki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without wasting more time on thinking , just go & explore the new height of enjoyment , must finish this task as a experiment .
2006-10-24 02:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahd and tr it. u'l fnd out hw u respd whn the3 of u r togethr if it dsnt wrk out u cn stil b friends wth the wfe
2006-10-24 02:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too much psychological issues to mention
2006-10-24 02:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all complicated but if this will cause unity & no argument then go and pursue the relationship but if this will cause conflict, i don't think it's a good idea...good luck
2006-10-24 02:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by a friend who might help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good idea. Run! This is about to explode in your face.
2006-10-24 02:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lucky July with all that attention
2006-10-24 02:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by guysmiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think ur all screwed up but whatever floats ur boat i could care less
2006-10-24 02:32:34 · answer #11 · answered by sandy k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋