Int this age of technology is cyber cheating really cheating? Is hugging someone else cheating? Kissing? What????
What are our views of what the limits are?
2006-10-23 19:13:21 · 18 answers · asked by wyldfyre 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex was the one who cheated. I caught him cyber cheating and he later admitted to years of cheating. He still swears that cyber cheating is not really cheating even thought the letters he and these girls were exhanging left NOTHING to the imagination as to intent.
I am a firm believer in do unto others as you would have done unto you, but he swears I am wrong. He says that most of the world would not consider online actually cheating.
2006-10-23 19:23:43 · update #1
I just wrote a blog about it on myspace if you want more details
www.myspace.com/wyldfyrechik
2006-10-23 19:26:01 · update #2
It doesn't have to be physical in order to cheat. Cheating can start in the mind and heart. If your intentions are to cheat, it doesn't matter if you're cybering or hugging or kissing someone when that person is one u are attracted to and have the intentions to cheat with.
2006-10-23 19:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible is clear that lust is cheating. See references in the gospels to lusting after someone as committing adultery in the mind.
Online porn is cheating, hugging an aunt in a family where this is a normal way of greeting aunts is not, but a mild hug of someone you are attracted to can be. At the end of the day, only the person who is doing the cheating and the partner that they are cheating on can fully define what is acceptable in each circumstance. If an act goes against either persons conscience, then its cheating!
While I don't know whether it is you or your partner that has cheated, is considering cheating or that is suspected of cheating, it sounds like you both need to have a serious discussion and make sure that you both have a common understanding of what you expect of each other. Otherwise, one of you is going is going to end up really hurt. Very few secrets don't eventually come out!
2006-10-24 02:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by eco101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes down to it it is how you feel about it...
But I think that if it is in your mind and you are attracted to another person, what can you do about it? Nothing, those are your feelings. It is not cheating if you are just thinking about it. But if you HUG or kiss or go out with someone you are attracted to? That is cheating. If you are not attracted to them and things are just a friendly way then it is not cheating. For example if you reallllly enjoy the hug from a second cousin or something cuz she has big boobs and thats why you hugged her, that is cheating. But if it is like an old aunt or something I don’t think it is cheating.
2006-10-24 03:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by buterflikizes20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the viewpoint of the spouse. I was cyber cheating and my exwife hated it. Then again, I was talking to couples who were cheating together. I also know of some people whose spouse was aware of the playing around but didn't care because the person never cheated outside the home. In general, it's frowned upon but it can be innocent.
2006-10-24 02:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating -
Cyber Sex
Kissing
Dating
Foreplay
Sex
All of the above!
2006-10-24 02:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Suki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cyber cheating is most definatley cheating. I just found out that my husband has been talking to women online and I'm devestated. I feel completely betrayed and worthless. I don't know how I'm going to get over this or if I will.
2006-10-27 20:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by goblingirl24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your or your other halfs mind is not on the relationship and wandering to others outside the relationship then I consider that unfaithful. There is nothing wrong with looking but when you even have cyber sex it is being unfaithful. I am married and would never consider being any kind of unfaithful to my husband, I made a loving committment and I treasure that above anyone else, but I wont take crap like him being unfaithful either. My limit is this I am your wife and lover, no one else ever takes over any of my duties, not one miniscule of them or I will tear them and my hubby a new 'A'.
2006-10-24 02:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, that is cheating..he is sharing sexual thoughts, fantasys, and even playing or seeing that person on the internet maybe even listing to that person doing gawd knows what...
hugging..yes, if you were hoping for more than that.. and it wasnt a friendship thing as you do when you greet someone into your home or when you see someone you havent seen in a while..
kissing, goes with out saying.......cheating
Limits..I will tell you this...in the age of computers your BF/husband would want to justify such an act as not real, when in fact, the person on the other end is real and participlating..so in light of that yes, he is cheating...
2006-10-24 03:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything physical and emotional is cheating. Youre either cheating the body or cheating the heart.
2006-10-24 02:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by h2gj87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u can put a line on what u can considered cheating on the other person. It depend on the couple itself. If both the couple are liberal then maybe a one night's stand is also not cheating
2006-10-24 03:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by nitewing 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋