Why do you have less patience with your kid but you have tons of it with others'?

Answer 1

Probably because you expect more from your own offspring. Many of my friends and family have claimed that i am much too hard on my son. I have relaxed a bit on my control on him because I think they were right. I think I was so hard on him because I felt that he should behave and act like I would. The more I let go and watch him the more he becomes an individual. Too much control doesn't work and not enough control produces rebels. The happy medium is the best way and the hardest to find.

Answer 2

Because there is such a thing as adult abuse by kids. It is mental and wearing and ones patience is constantly tried. I am afraid even others can try it if you are around them long enough. Has anyone ever repeatedly asked you inane questions? Kids do this all day long and there is a breaking point. Children know which buttons to push for the most explosive responses. We are human and that is all it is.

Answer 3

I've always believed it is more important to be nice to the people at home, who love you, than it is to be nice to strangers (not that I'm not nice to strangers I run into). That's how I raised my kids. I've always had all the patience in the world with these people I so admire and love.

In fairness to people who are not so patient with their own children, I think lots of times if children seem to keep needing more than parents are always able to give the parent can get stretched to the limit and lose her/his ability to remain calm and cool in the face of feeling so exhausted at having demands made.

(Then again, though, some parents are just lousy at being parents.)

Answer 4

They have no genetic connection and quite frankly I think most kids should be forcibly brought up by other people and returned home on their eighteenth!!!!!!


Apologies,,,,just sick of hearing how good mine are from such and suches parents ---I may as well hold my breath to cool my porridge to witness THAT little miracle happening here!

Answer 5

Excellent question....I have seen this many times as a school teacher...I think parents tend to "over-parent" their own kids, and also, frankly, they get sick of them, cause they don't like the results they get. And that's bad, cause they're not understanding what good parenting is. Unfortunately, kids have no choice, or not many. They have to do what parents say, no matter how absurd. And many parents end up emotionally destroying their kids, but don't even realize it, and THAT'S one of the MAJOR REASONS kids end up taking illegal drugs, to escape from the bs that their parents shove down their throats!

Parents should LEAD and ENCOURAGE; instead too many RULE and DESTROY

Answer 6

It's hard to separate our own identity with the behavior of our children. If our children behave badly it pushes our buttons because it's a direct reflection of how we are perceived by others.
Other people's children are separate from our own identity and their behavior doesn't provoke the personal anxiety that our own children create in us.

Answer 7

u always have less patience for your love ones.sad but I believe its true. society cares for how people perceive them.

Answer 8

Basically if someone elses kid does the worng thing it is their problem. If your own does something wrong it's your problem and you have to live with it everyday.

Answer 9

because you dont have to be patient with your kid cause you can beat the living hell out of it and nobody cares, but you cant do that with other peoples children