What are the ways to control anger... is it possible to give up getting angry?

Answer 1

You should never give up being angry. Even Jesus got angry.

The key to anger is two-fold. 1) Is the anger you exhibit warranted? 2) Are you getting angry with the person who caused you hurt?

1) When you get angry, is it because of a legitimate problem, or because you didn't get your way? Make sure that the reasons you get angry are for the right reasons. And never let your anger lead to violence unless you or someone else is in physical danger.

2) Are you directing your anger at the person who has hurt you, or are you directing it at a loved one? Many times, we don't confront the person who has caused us harm and we end taking it out on our dearest loved ones. Make sure you direct your anger at the source of it.

Anger is a legitimate emotion, and if used correctly, it keeps us from feeling bitter. It also empowers you in the face of bullies or someone at work who uses their position wrongly.

The best way to keep your anger in check is to know yourself. If you know you are getting to your "boiling point", simply tell the person you are dealing with you will be back. Turn and walk away quickly. Walk outside, and keep walking until you know that you can come back and deal with the person rationally. Come back, and deal with the problem now that you are calm.

This works for me, and I used to be a real hothead!

Answer 2

There is no way to control anger. Anger is nothing but the unconscious part, of which you do not know, you do not aware of it. The unconscious is very much powerful than the conscious mind. You don't have the power to control the unconscious. There is only one which is having full control over the unconscious mind i.e., Super Conscious mind i.e., The Supreme Consciousness i.e., GOD. If you try to control the anger, it means you are fighting with the unconscious. Whenever you are fighting with the anger, the anger will become double, triple and so many times. It means you will be defeated surely. There is only one way i.e., to see it, accept it that there is anger and you don't have any control over it and pray to come out of it. Seeing it and accepting it very important. You must discover that how you are helpless and from the helplessness pray to GOD whomever you like, then see the result. The result can be instant or in a due course of time. It can not be said in words, it has to be experienced. Try it and see.

Answer 3

The best way to control your anger is to recognize it. Once you can recognize your angry behaviours, you can make a concentrated effort to control them. Elimination of anger is a very long process achieved in small steps.

Learn what causes you to become angry. Identifying anger early lets you control it.
Learn what calms you down. Take deep breaths, a walk, count to ten, or whatever you need but take yourself away from the anger. You'll also help to reduce stress this way.

The more you work on anger management, the better you will become at it.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Whenever you are angry, talk to your self. Is it worth getting angry in the said situation? Is there a valid reason for getting angry? Do you really need get your BP up. Getting angry will only hurt you. Before doing some thing out of angry, think whether you can manage the situation without doing it. Think of the good deeds of the person causing you the angry. ...Then keep your mind blank for a while. I am sure your anger will vanish.

Answer 5

First, you have to change your thinking. Being angry or feeling angry is not wrong. It is NORMAL. You are always going to have feelings of anger, and that doesn't mean you're a bad person. When you feel angry about something, choose to respond to the situation at a different time, if at all possible. Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. You CAN choose to respond in a gentle, but firm, manner.

Answer 6

Better living through chemistry: use a tranquilizer, especially if your anger should not exist, such as if it is the result of a chemical imbalance. But there is such a thing as righteous anger. Early Americans had righteous anger at the British in the 1700's...the British had righteous anger at the Germans during WWII...and so on. Anger is a wonderful energy source that can be used to accomplish great deeds. Given the present state of humanity, it would be senseless to give up anger.

Answer 7

If you mean getting angry over small stuff that happens each day you have to find one thought that will remind you of what is important is life. It could be "Life is short" or "There are people starving in the world" or anything that reminds you instantly of how unimportant some stupid little stuff really is.

Also, you have to decide you will not let the "anger genie" out of the bottle. Once you start showing temper or yelling or punching pillows (or whatever) you may find the anger is fanned just as if it were a fire. As with a fire, you have to smother it - don't let it out at all, regardless of who says letting it out is healthy.

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with being angry. However, if you feel like it's a problem you should see a professional and figure out why you are angry. It's surprising, but when something happens to us that we don't like, we first feel hurt then use anger to mask it because in our society, anger is a more acceptable emotion than sadness.

Answer 9

I have heard this enough.. learn to recognize it when it happens.. joking are you? Anger is an impulse emotion, how on earth do you control impulse..
The only thing that works for me is getting a control over my fast paced tongue when angry.. so, either I shut up, walk away. I bide my time, cool down, think about the situation calmly and then respond.
The trick is NOT to respond when one is Angry

Answer 10

controlling anger is a lost cause. once you get angry, the adrenaline rush completely takes over passive logic. you'll feel like tearing somebody's head off. anger management and prevention are far more useful tactics. martials arts weapons training does the trick, or weight lifting. anything that involves some sense of having the power to alter your immediate environment.