Me and my boyfriend have been together since my freshmen year in highschool. This year we hit four years. I am in college and he is in the National Guard. Some say we should get married now. Others say we are too young, we should wait. I want to wait until i finish college.
2006-10-23 18:30:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do it when you feel ready. If you want to finish college do it! Don't let people pressure you into something you aren't ready for, it is your life after all.
2006-10-23 18:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by dang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get married until 25. Thats a piece of advice I thought was stupid when I was 20 but realized was really good when I was 23. However 25 is just a guideline, what it means is get your head on straight, your life in order and then worry about marriage.
From the financial aid standpoint you also shouldn't get married until you're out of college. Unless he gets deployed. Then you'll regret it emotionally if something bad happens and also you will have no spouse rights or benefits. The military will also give him extra pay for being married. However, you don't have to worry about this until he gets deployed because the army treats a 10 day old marriage the same as a 10 year old marriage.
2006-10-24 01:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by ihatestupidclowns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you finish college for sure because if you don't you may never finish. Things happen like little ones come along and things like that. If you both love one another he will be there for you and I think he will support you in your decision to finish your education. An education is so important these days. You will only be about 22 or 23 when you finish and that is a good age to get married. Do yourself a favor! stop listening to everyone else and follow your dreams. Remember it is your future not anyone Else's, don't let them influence you.
2006-10-24 01:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by orlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married seven years. I was only 16 and he was 23. We are still madly in love so don't let anyone tell you you're too young. What it really comes down to is: Do you feel like you're ready and that this is what you really and truly want. If you answered yes, GO FOR IT! But, if you'd rather finish college first, you should do that. Just don't wait until after the vows have been said to think about "What if...."
2006-10-24 01:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mystique6583 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU feel you want to until you finish College then do it then..I mean even though you've been together,it was through your teen years..and you most likely dont know exactly what you want..although it seems like you may know everything now. So yes,wait until college..then you can really start your life then. G'luck.
2006-10-24 01:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by yahooaddict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know exactly when to get married.
In my opinion, college is the ultimate relationship test. You're going to be in an environment full of guys, experiences and wacky adventures. You need to make sure that the realtionship you're currently in is right for you, and going through college is the absolute perfect way to see if it is. There shouldn't be any rush to get married.
2006-10-24 01:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Robot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then wait til you finish college. That would be best because then you have some income going into the family.
2006-10-24 01:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to finish school first, then you should. The two of you should plan your future out the way YOU want it....no one else. Don't let anyon else bully you into something you don't want to do. Only the two of you will know when the time is right. Good Luck and God Bless you!!!
2006-10-24 01:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by Cinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the two of you can know the right answer to that question. Who cares what others opinions are? You and your boyfriend alone know if you are at the place in your lives when it's "right" for you to marry. Don't let others pressure you in making or not making one of the most important decisions of your life.
God bless you!
2006-10-24 02:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least a year. One's personality drastically shifts in college, especially in that first year, and I think you need time to develop as a person.
2006-10-24 01:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋