what would you do???

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what would you do???

my husband (whom i love) got a hair up his butt one day because we were running low on funds and had TONS of bills to pay got the bright idea to tell me that he was going to let his friend "borrow" my playstation 2 and some dvd's and games... a week later im SCREAMING for my things back (they were mine b4 we got married) and he admitted to pawning the games and the dvd's... three days go by and his friend is supposively bringing over my playstation 2 and he ends up finally confessing that they pawned it too... i was HEATED and more angry than EVER... he LIED to me.....what would YOU do??

2006-10-23 18:00:47 · 27 answers · asked by tiffany 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce

2006-10-23 18:39:22 · update #1

he used the money for BILLS ONLY..... we have 2 wonderful kids and we DONT do drugs... AND he paid the bills that HE created being he bought a BIG SCREEN T.V. from the rent a center place and used the $ to pay for that

2006-10-23 19:13:47 · update #2

27 answers

Tell him calmly that you didn't appreciate that. You two need to sit down and figure out your financial situation, and come up with a way to get back on track. Otherwise, you'll start argueing a lot, never pay attention to each other, and getting divorced.

2006-10-23 18:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Nep 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋

It was wrong of him to lie to you. He should have just told you the truth in the first place, and maybe you wouldnt be so angry.
Maybe he lied to you because he does feel like he is in over his head, and he was trying to provide for your family!!
He could have told you the lie because he thought he would pay the bills and get the stuff back out of the pawn shop before it even mattered.

Calmly talk to him about it and tell him that you were thankful for him to try to find one last shred of hope to make ends meet. (So you could post a question like this on the internet..)
But tell him you are upset that he lied to you in the first place, and it wouldnt have been a problem if he just asked. Vow to never keep anything from eachother again, and always tell the truth...Lies never fix problems, they only make them worse.
Forgive and Forget.
Think about it, he loves you. Or he would have done nothing, and let it all get cut off, let your credit be ruined...or BOTH.
Then you would be sitting in the dark staring at a playstation box that couldn't be played at all.
Good Luck!

2006-10-23 18:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by obsessedwithshamrockgreen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋

If your husband is low on money, then he should stop buying so much stuff and work more.

Make your husband and his friends buy you all the things they pawned, IN NEW CONDITION.

Don't feel bad. If your husband needed money he should've talked to you about it. I'm sure you're an understanding person and a loving wife. Or he can even sell his stuff, but NEVER yours.

Also... Make sure those friends are true friends. If not, tell him that he needs to stop hanging out with them because it is damaging your marriage.

2006-10-23 18:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by bluecymbals04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋

He not only lied to you, he stole from you. Why the tons of bills?
Is he (or both of them) USING? Hopefully he owns something for YOU to pawn. I would visit that pawn shop with a trunk full of anything of value that belows to him. And I would not be sharing my stuff OR funds with him. Obviously he's not to be trusted.
And you stand to lose anything and e/thing you own. Do NOT allow this incident to slide.

2006-10-23 18:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋

I can understand that you love your husband but your husband is an *** and totally disrespected you. I don't know what I would do in that situation but I think it would be extremely hard not to take some of his things and pawn them or even better, sell them so he has no chance to get them out of pawn. Best of luck.

2006-10-23 18:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mav 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋

he is a child... how come he didnt tell u in the first place? its just a playstation.. but its the principle that counts. cant he trust that u can help him find a better solution in getting the money than pawning off ur stuff and lying to you/?

2006-10-23 18:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋

I would be pissed as hell. not for pawning it but just for leing to me i think he should of ask you and talk to you first about pawning your stuff. He lied that is a big problem make sure you tell him not to lie to you about things like that again make sure he knows that he talk with you how about money problems. That is one of the major cuases of divorces in America.

2006-10-23 18:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋

I would be SERIOUSLY P'D OFF!!! I don't blame you one bit!!!! Why didn't he pawn something of HIS? Or at least talk to you about it first?! I think you should tell him that we're going down to the pawn shop and trading in something of his to equal the deal. Make it a good choice, and it's YOUR choice.

Then settle it and don't keep bringing it up.

2006-10-23 18:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋

you should have thought before to pawn the playstation before him.

if you have so many bills to pay and you are still calculating what was yours before etc, its not worth for him to carry on the relationship with you, darling.

maybe you should get married and live with your playstation!

c mon be serious baby...you should thank him for making some cash from a stupid piece of junk that anycase is not worth having.

2006-10-23 18:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mr ME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋

I would tell him that he need to control his spending, Keep your money in a different account. If he does not get any help he will continue doing this type of spending. He is not thinking about you. I have been around guys like this. Do something now before its too late.

2006-10-23 18:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by Biometric 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋