I am in Afghanistan and my wife lied to me and told me she was going to be one place but went to another! She went to see an exboyfriend whom she says has been having a very hard time since she and I got married. She says he would not see her and that nothing happened. This is not the first time he has been an issue! She says she went down there to explain to him why we got married and help point out to him where he needs to improve! To me she could have done that on the phone not drive 9 hrs! But she blames herself for him being unhappy. What would you all think?
2006-10-23 18:00:27 · 10 answers · asked by marine_one1996 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think she went to have sex plain simple hot sex if you think anything else than you never wanted a real answer
2006-10-23 18:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a problem and she is obviously still in love with him. u r right, she can explain anything on the phone, in yahoo chat and however else. and to make situation worse, she shouldnt even care what the ex-bf is going through bec she is now married and has a family.
maybe she is beginning to doubt her decision.
give her an ultimatum. tell her, if u want him back, go to him and never come back. life's just that. u win some, u lose some; one day u have someone, one day u dont. but the greatest losing end at the end of the day is those who do not know what they want in life. and in this case, its ur wife.
2006-10-24 01:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should not of had any more contact with him whatsoever. She is married to you and she should just let her ex go. If he is having problems with her getting married then what makes her think if she goes and talks to him it will make it all better. NO WAY it will only make it worse. You need to look further into her intentions something smells fishy.
2006-10-24 01:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. You need to address this. Sounds like she is lying. I would leave her just for doing what she did. But I've also never been married... only long term girlfriends.
2006-10-24 01:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your point about a phone call is completely valid. Either she is still interested in him, or he is trying to take advantage of her sympathy. I would suggest that you make it clear to her that this is unacceptable to you, and that any further meetings between the two of them will put your marriage in jeopardy.
2006-10-24 01:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she is doing more then talking. my husband is in south Carolina in boot camp and there is no way i would even waste time to go see any guy, i married one guy so i could just deal with him not so i could care about other guys too
2006-10-24 01:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT SHE IS CHEATING ON YOU. AND THE FACT
THAT SHE HAS THE NERVE TO SAY THAT NOTHING IS GOING
ON WHEN AS YOU STATED SHE COULD HAVE TALK TO HIM
ON THE PHONE INSTEAD OF DRIVING TO SEE A EX. WHO
HAVING PROBLEMS. HE NOT HER CONCERN, SHE MARRIED
TO YOU. HER CONCERN SHOULD BE YOU. ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU ARE OVER THERE FIGHTING A WAR . THAT
WHERE HER CONCERN SHOULD BE FOR YOU AND YOUR
SAFETY. WELL IF SHE DOES NOT HAVE CONCERN I DO
STAY SAFE OVER THERE. GOD BLESS. YOU AND KEEP YOU.
S
2006-10-24 01:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, since you two are married she owes him no explanation...I feel for you being all the way over there and she is here clowning....She is lonely just like you are.....Just pray on it....
2006-10-24 01:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is looking for excuses to go and see him.
2006-10-24 01:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex or not, bottom line is OBVIOUSLY she still has feelings for this guy,,give her ultimatum, him or you, plain and simple,,,too many girls out there to be giving your time to someone who is unfaithful to you,,,,believe me hanky panky of some sort is on her mind,,,,get rid of the ex or you'll become the "ex"!!,,,
2006-10-24 01:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋