how can i not be so sensitive?

Question

I take everything personally how can I not

I get like this especially when i am on my period A week before and a week after I get really sensotive

Answer 1

Just know that you have a choice as to how you react. The way you react depends on the story you tell yourself. I had an example tonight where I asked my son if he wanted a hair cut. He got upset and said no. I asked why he got upset, and he couldn't tell me why. I then asked, "What did you hear when I asked that?" He said, "You think my hair is too long." I told him I was just offering in case he wanted to because I was going to get mine cut. If he told himself THAT story, he would have been happy instead of defensive. Tell yourself a better story, and you will CREATE better emotions.

Answer 2

So am I, so I know what you mean. But I just picture myself looking at the situation from outside of myself. I come to it from a logical perspective, in which things make sense, and I weigh the sides. What is the worst that could happen? What's the best? What is possible? Suddenly, it is not personal at all!

I end up seeing that I have a choice, and I can make a choice. This helps a lot.

But it takes practice, because as I said, I have been there. By the way, sometimes being sensitive is very good, because the good things in life feel that much better for you.Others are numb, but you are there, experiencing things for real! That's good.

But when it's bad, just practice stepping outside, and reminding yourself that you have a choice about how to view the matter. You always do. You need not feel hurt. But it's up to you how you feel. Really.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Its both easy and extremely difficult. Try not to take things too seriously for one. Always look for the silver lining of any negative thing, and try and always think positively. Look for the good, ignore the bad, and you will be happy and hurt a lot less. If someone says something bad or mean about you then seek solace in friends or exercise (get those endorphines flowing!) or perhaps think about why they said it. Empathy is a powerful skill, by understanding others you can better understand yourself.

But remember it is not bad to hurt or be sad, it is a natural feeling.

Answer 4

Try to look at others and what they say in a positive way even if it is hurtful at times by practicing this all the time your attitude will eventually change .There are some good American books on this subject sorry i cant remember the best one but it in paperback form .I am not American but its been around many years and is still available today look at the library under the power of positive thinking .

Answer 5

Try harder. Its not easy some manage to over come it while some always seem to be sensitive, Go to a happy place . Or say to yourself that just because something sounded that way that it doesn't mean it was meant that way. sometimes that helps to

Answer 6

Its just your character....trust me. I am the same way. Things will bug you no matter what, the way you handle them is the whole thing. You eventually learn to just fake it, and pretend that things don't bug you and later go evaluate the situation. Are you a sagitarius? Its not necessarily a bad thing to be sensative. Don't worry. You'll toughen up. Counsoling helps too...if you want to go that route.

Answer 7

How old are you?? Give life a chance you will get knocked around to the point things wont effect you like they do now....and/or you will be to tired of the family and work and, and you wont have the luxury to be sensitive....

Answer 8

I honestly don't know. I'm the same way. I guess maybe try working on your self-esteem. If you feel good about yourself that seems to help. It's a struggle for me too so I can totally relate.

Answer 9

I'm exactly like that. I just try to ignore it, but it's always with me and I freak out about it later on. Sorry, it's not much help, but it'll save you from being embarressed in public.

Answer 10

Is it anxiety? If so, exercise, and maybe take some St Johns Wart. Everything will be okay.