I'm a very simply naive person. When my girl left me and I finally got a few answers out of her, some were reasonable, others just didn't ring true. Like leaving me for a previous person they "loved". That I can deal with. But then saying before they we were uncompatible, just seemed like something made up to soften the blow. Unless I'm a complete twit, I never felt we were uncompatible. But when you're being sized up and compared with the "ex", you're never really going to be compatible as she will never see me for me. It'll always be her looking at me thinking of hte other guy. Anyway, do girls say things like, not being compatible, it's just never going to work, I made a mistake etc. and actually mean it? I want to be with my ex so bad, but there's nothing I can do now. No contact, nothing. So I can only sit and wait and hope she might contact me at some point. But what if she really did mean what she said? I've seen first hand her saying things that were false.
2006-10-23 17:34:17 · 8 answers · asked by Kruton 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Getting over someone who you had strong feelings for is rugged. This situation just doesn't feel so cut & dried and final. I know when things are over in relationships and this just does not feel over at this point. I think she's confused by her feelings for her ex and pushed me away saying we were not compatible. We were going to get married even. I don't think girls do the whole wedding scene and then come out and say we are not compatible. It just felt like she was trying to come up with things to say. But she should be honest for a change and actually mean what she said. But she runs from her problems and is a person who you have to dig and dig to get the real reason for something. I know she was not over he ex now. That part isn't in dispute. She knows I loved her and had strong feelings for her. But she ran away and barley gave me a chance to even say anything. I dont' want to holding onto hope, but this really feels like it isn't over. But again I'm naive.
2006-10-23 17:53:39 · update #1
Honey, I am a 33 year old mother, who has been around the dating block, and I can tell you that 75% of what a girl means when they say the two of you are just not compatible is that she doesn't feel comfortable around you to be herself, and more than likely,"herself" is hiding something. Sometimes we do use that reason to soften the blow of, maybe, no real sparks in the bedroom, if you know what I mean, but gaging what you wrote, it sounds more like she was hiding something. Maybe not even another beau, but maybe some deep side of her that is just starting to blossom. Sounds to me like both of you are rather young (less than 25) and perhaps you both have alot of growing and experiencing. Maybe you will find that in time, you grow back together, but if not, I can assure you that one day, you will much happier that she let you go, for whatever reason(s).
2006-10-23 17:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by summgirl5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to give my ex some reasons to break up with him and yes, I was trying to be as honest as possible. I told him that I don't like him like I did before and that I'd rather be friends. I also told the guy that I couldn't really see myself with him anymore and it wasn't like he had done any wrong, but I really didn't see us together ina long run. I was super sincere with my reasons, but somehow, it sounds like I was making some stupid stuff up. It doesn't even sound like making any sense to me either, but it's true though. Maybe some girls just aren't good at breaking up and explaining why. Simple as that!
2006-10-24 00:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't sit and wait for anyone. Move on with your life because you don't want someone that doesn't want you. Second of all, yes, she may say things that may be untrue about why the two of you broke up. It's simply that she wants to date someone else. Please understand that time and space will put you more at ease with this break up and as we all do we begin dating other people. You're going to be fine, occupy yourself with other things now.
2006-10-24 00:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most times they don't know what to say. They just know it isn't working for them. The feeling isn't right and they don't know how to explain it. If I were back in my dating days, knowing what I know now, I'd work on my relationship with God first. When you find God, you find yourself and everything else works itself out. Whether you're Catholic or not, you need to find a Catholic church, during the day when no one's there and spend some time alone with Jesus. He's always there, in the tabernacle, to heal and restore you; to love you as you need to be loved right now. You won't believe the peace you'll feel in pouring out your heart to Him and listening for what He speaks to your heart. I've been where you're at and I wasted so much time on other relationships. Now I know there's only one that really matters. "Our hearts are restless until they rest in Thee, O God" (St. Augustine/Confessions)
2006-10-24 00:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are like most carbon based ape descendants. Lol Some tell the truth some tell lies, it depends on what type of person she was. From what you wrote I don't think it sounds 100% true though.
2006-10-24 00:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry yourself wondering about the reasons. You may never know the truth. Just know that she no longer wants to be with you, sorry.
2006-10-24 00:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes girls don't want to say things that hurt your feelings so they'll say anything else.
So long as you get the meaning, leave it be.
2006-10-24 00:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are like cats dude....plain and simple. Get used to it.
2006-10-24 00:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋