I had an affair with the married woman next door. She divorced her husband and got with me. He knows we got together. After a year she did the same thing to me.
I know a little about how her ex must have felt. Very little. His pain must have been so much worse than mine. They have two kids.
I feel very guilty only now. I want to find him and tell him Im sorry, tell him everything we did, let him punch me in the nose if he wants to.
She never did admit anything we did while they were married. He would say to her "You cheated. Why wont you just say its true?" He wanted to know if it was true but she always lied. She still lies to him about our affair.
I'm sorry and want to apologise. (My Guilt)
It would hurt her to tell him the truth about our affair. (My Revenge)
Will it help him?What should I do?
2006-10-23 17:11:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must be losing my mind over her.
2006-10-23 17:23:16 · update #1
I know this might make you feel better right now. But all you'll be doing is opening up old wounds for him and possibly hurt him more than you already did. I think you should probably just tend to your broken heart and try to completely walk away from the whole situation. Good luck!
2006-10-23 17:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, i think you should leave him alone. I think he hates you in his own way, but really the situation has more to do with his relationship with his wife. As well, i mean I honestly think this guy knows that you two were having an affair by now, so the whole revenge factor isn't really that strong. Plus bringing up the past may make you feel better, but i think you'd end up hurting him more. You should just deal with your guilt, take the valuable lesson that you've learned, and let sleeping dog lay. Live your life, don't be so concerned about your ex and her husband.
2006-10-23 17:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, there's a lesson here and it's called KARMA. I'm sorry you had to learn the hard way. But as for confessing your sins to her ex, it doesn't sound to be a good idea to admit fault in front of his face. However, I don't see the harm in writing a sincere letter and apologizing tastefully about your prior relationship. I think what your looking for is closure, not revenge.
2006-10-23 17:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Fivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is move on and get over her, on top of that I wouldn't volunteer any info to her husband unless you are approach by him, most guys don't want to know the other guy and if they do they sure don't want details that would just be pouring salt on a very deep wound.
2006-10-23 17:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say anything to him, he's moved on & im sure he know's what a stupid slut of an ex-wife he got's! Don't crush someone's world all over again! the apology part is understandable; don't do it while your still hurting though. it could backfire on you; seriously! You might tell him and he could be like, "you know what, that's what you get!" The only thing that she is gunna get is a disease.
"WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND"
2006-10-23 17:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEARN THE LESSON YOU WERE SUPPOSE TO FROM THIS AND LET IT GO AND BY ALL MEANS DON'T EVER MESS WITH ANOTHER'S WIFE. IM AM SURE HE KNOWS WHAT YOU FEEL. I WOULDN'T BRING UP OLD WOUNDS TO HIM. HE HAS BEEN HURT ENOUGH BY YOU. YOU NEED TO LEARN TO PUT YOUSELF IN SOMEONES PLACE WITH OUT HAVING THAT SAME THING DONE TO YOU. THEN YOU WILL NOT MAKE BAD CHOICES. MOVE ON. LIVE AND LEARN.
2006-10-23 17:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should of known better, if a woman is going to cheat on someone to be with you then eventually she is going to cheat on you to be with someone. Otherwise, don't you think you and her have made a mess of everyone Else's life already, do you really need to do more?
2006-10-23 17:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋