Ladies... do you look past a man's looks?

Question

Honestly? Do you look past looks? Do you see the "inner beauty" women want men to see in them?

Answer 1

I made a rule long ago to never date a man prettier than me. They're too insecure when they're pretty. I decided to go for personality... and I found almost as many insecure men.

I've dated older men, younger men, tall men, short men, PhDs, high school grads, thin men, fat men, hairy men, bald men, you name it. They all have insecurities. I can't deal with so many insecurities. More men need a lot more self confidence and self esteem these days.

The smartest things I ever did were swearing off dating and swearing off sex. I see men much more objectively, although I still enjoy seeing eye candy (although I never comment any more and never touch).

You're so pretty I think a lot of women would have trouble seeing past the outside and get to the Real You (inside). I would guess you've got something nice going on inside, and I hope you meet someone who can appreciate you for who you are once your looks fade (if they fade).

People shouldn't go for looks -- someone could be in a car accident or develop a disease and all of a sudden they don't look the same. Then what? A person leaves their mate because they got sick or end up in a wheelchair? How would that person feel if it happened to them?

Things to think about...

Answer 2

Its not always about looks, but there has to some outstanding feature......you want the whole package to look nice...at least I do, I always look at a guy and size up what the children would look like, I can't help it. I am visually stimulated but its not the only thing I look at, they have to amaze me........thats the hard part....I have no control over the effect they have on me.....I think its on a biological and spiritual level...yeah I said spiritual.....I have to feel like they are a really good person. Its the effect of the spirit that brings out their inner beauty.

Answer 3

Honestly, I do look past a man's looks. To me, a man is attractive if he possesses the qualities that are important to me. It is the whole person that makes a man attractive, not his hair or his clothing, his job or his car. I think that an average looking man becomes very attractive when he makes me smile, helps another human being, or displays consistent honesty. I have met many "attractive" men, who lie, cheat on their wives, and who care only about themselves -- and those men aren't attractive to me.

It's hard to know if a man is attractive upon first meeting him. I have to get to know a man before I can make that call.

Answer 4

I think initial attraction comes from ones looks, but yes there
have been plenty of times that while I was not initially attracted to a man.......as I got to know him he became attractive to me.
Personality says alot about a person.......who cares how hot someone is..........when they are 70 the looks will be gone, but chances are they will still have that awesome personality that
make you love them in the first place.

So I guess the answer is yes!!!

Answer 5

I can say I do to an extent.

I do have two standards concerning a guy's looks:

1. He has to be taller than me, but I'm pretty short so it shouldn't be a problem (like one meter, 65 centimetres)

2. He shouldn't be too hairy...no offence, but there is such a thing as TOO much hair...like...it looks more like fur than hair kinda hair...

Make that three: Their weight should be healthy still, meaning not dangerously over or underweight.

Other than that, I don't really care about physical appearance at all. ^^ Yep, they can be pudgy, bald, wide-mouthed, thin-lipped...etc....as long as they've got an appealing personality and nature I'll be happy. ^^

Answer 6

Yes. You have to get to know people. I've met people that weren't attractive when I met them and the more I got to know them, the more attractive they became. Inner beauty always outshines someone who's pretty on the outside and ugly inside.

Answer 7

Whatever, you do don't believe every answer you get. Most of them are lying. I'm an average looking man and There is almost always some physical apearance that is the reason she doesn't want me.

Answer 8

Absolutely! My motto has always been "Your looks will eventually fade,but your personality will always be with you." A great personality is most important to me. I don't understand how some woman can be with a man just because hes goodlooking,and he's so boring or self-involved.I want someone who can make me laugh and alos be able to hold a decent conversation.

Answer 9

sure I see inner beauty but I won't look for it till I see some kind of outer beauty....may not be much but a little can go a long way. may be shallow to but it is honest!

Answer 10

By your picture I'm sure you have no problem with that. And yes we do look past looks. I see the smile...the humor, the sweet voice. Looks are not everything, it really is what is inside your heart and how you treat a woman that is the biggest turn on.