I am pregnant. my husband and i were not planning this one. he does not want the child. i do. when i say i am going to have an abortion he is a little more supportive although yesterday when i made the appointment i rang and told him and he brushed me aside. today i want to keep the baby and i feel like he is trying to pressure me into it. i do not know what to feel and being around him confuses me even more and i am starting to really resent him for the way he is behaving. what should i do?
2006-10-23 16:54:39 · 6 answers · asked by alilovespete 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We are finacially stable. i work for myself and he has a good job. we have assets, we have investments and we have a child together already. we did not have a hard time with our baby and he is turning one tomaorrow. basically he just feels that the timing is onconvienient. i do not think this justifies killing a baby. but i do not want us to be at war with each other.
2006-10-23 17:04:11 · update #1
Do not do anything just yet. It seems as though you both haven't really sat down and talked this through. Seek help from a third party if it is hard to talk to each other at the moment. Don't do anything until the both of you are absolutely sure it is the right thing to do.
2006-10-23 16:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by doofynic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to feel resentment when ever a lover who's suppose to be on yourside is not. See this in a different light.. you are both different people although joined in love, still have different opinions.
Abortion is a sensitive matter. some women aborted their children and just to mentally suffer in the future by always wondering about how their unborn child would have been now, how their characteristics would have been and moments would have had if they haven't aborted it. (unless it is abnormal and severely deformed)
did you ask your husband why he did not want the child? it could be financial reasons? if so, and you really wanted to keep it, tell him that you will pool in more share of money to raising the child and he might be more agreeable to keeping the baby. Talk to him so that communication channels are open.
Either way, there's a child on the way, and since you really wanna keep it, i don't think it is a good idea to have an abortion.
unless there are severe issues on abilities and responsibilities to raising the child.
Good luck!
2006-10-24 00:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...difficult decision. the way i see it, you have two options
1) you can keep your appointment for the abortion on the assumption that it will make your marriage easier, considering the pregnancy wasn't planned. i would reccommend getting post-abortion counseling afterwards, since many mothers get depressed following abortions.
2) you can opt to keep the baby, regardless of what he says, because it is the mother's right to choose, by Constitutional law. the risk you take in that respect is that you may end up alienating your husband in the process if you do that.
either way, your situation is a difficult one. i suggest that you two sit down and honestly discuss the situation. would it be financially feasible? another child might be a blessing on your home. however, if the child would be born into a financially insecure situation or something else that might jeopardize it, you may reconsider the abortion. you have to talk to your husband before you finalize your decision. find out his reasons, and explain yours to him. good luck!
2006-10-23 23:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is being a pain...either lay it on the line for him and get answers or brush him off or put up with it....but it is yours to choose....personally, since he is acting up, I would leave him no matter what...and tell him to pay child support since he was a man to get you pregnant in the first place.
You can damage yourself and I have heard that people have with having an abortion some are very lucky...take a look at who is important to you..and note all pros and cons for everything and choose your best answer that way...I hope I answered that for you.
2006-10-24 00:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce if he doesnt want anything to do with the baby. Do not kill the baby because he doesnt want one. He may change his mind after the child is born?? He may not. Good luck, take care
2006-10-23 23:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body..Your choice!!! You have the right to want and keep the baby. If your husband didn't want anymore children he should have taken precautions to ensure you wouldn't get pregnant. I hope you make the best decision for you and your child/dren.
Best Wishes!!!!
2006-10-23 23:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋