well this may sound strange. but this is not about me. but a problem that a friend of mine is going through. he asked me this question and i dont' know what to say. so i need some help.
CURRENTLY HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP. BUT HE HAS MET SOMEONE THAT HE REALLY LIKES. HE WANTS TO LEAVE THE PERSON THAT HE IS CURRENLTY WITH BUT HE DOESN'T WANT HER TO TAKE THE CHILDREN AWAY FROM HIM. NO THE CHILDREN ARE NOT HIS BUT HE LOVES THEM TO DEATH. HE WANTS TO KNOW HOW CAN HE BREAK IT TO HER WITHOUT HER WANTING TO TAKE THE CHILDREN AWAY FROM HIM. ANY SUGGESTIONS
2006-10-23 16:47:53 · 16 answers · asked by ladyred_redlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's the heartbreak when dating with kids.
I'm aware of this happening, so to spare my kids, I won't let them get too close to a man unless I'm going to marry him.
It's a fact of life in broken homes. Broken homes, broken hearts.
2006-10-23 16:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by megmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very tough. He needs to tell her and let her know he would like to still be there for the children. Usually it is a package deal she comes with the kids just like she leaves with them. The kids may wonder why they are not together anymore and what if she finds someone else and the guy don't want him around. The idea sounds good in theory, but it may end up being best for all to leave the whole situation alone. Expect her to be angry at first, but after she calm down she may change her mind. There is no easy way out. Just don't continue to string her along.
2006-10-23 23:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always best to tell the truth although I would leave out the part about another woman. Tell the woman with the children that the relationship has changed. That he wants to be friends and be there for the children because he loves them. She may be hurt for awhile but most women will do what is best for their children.
2006-10-23 23:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by doodlesmagic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure that is possible but it will all depend on how the mother of the children takes the break up. She may not deny the children knowing him?? He shouldnt tell her that he wants to break up because he found someone else. He shouldnt date the new one until he has been broke up for awhile.
2006-10-23 23:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way is for him to tell her up front and honest...she would be more liklely to play the kids against him if she finds out threw someone eles..its going to happen anyway so tell him to get it over with..i dont no her but most females will try to use the kids to get even and hurt the other one..there is no stopping that if thats the way she is..i think its wronge to involve the kids but it happens everyday tell him to get it over with so he can move on and be happy
2006-10-23 23:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by pantherblack05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he can, has has no right to parenting and obviously isn't too loyal and loving if he won't stay with her. Is heis new girlfriend going to have kids and then he'll walk away from the others?
2006-10-23 23:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by doofynic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure but if there not married or his children I would not think he has any rights. The only option talk to her be honest and it's up to her
2006-10-23 23:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by steffi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is sure that she will deny him seeing the children, then there are only two choices. He can stay and be unhappy, or move on. It is just that simple.
2006-10-24 00:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That question is ridiculous. No, your boyfriend cannot take his girlfriend's kids. He needs to make a choice, and follow through. Do not let him string you along. I would dump his *** if I were you.
2006-10-23 23:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what works is if he just simply said i have found som1 that i can spend the rest of my life with and i feel that i would be a better perent considering that i will probly spend the rest of my life with this woman i am so sorry i thought this whole thing would work out can you forgive me? but have him put it in his own words
2006-10-23 23:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by crazyscottsman38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋