Love her but very hurt not sure if this is the time to try tough love she has been through a lot over the years and I knew she been acting different but I never expected this from my mom I love her very much and I am not sure how I am suppose to behave around her now She was being treated for depression and as far as we knew everything seemed fine until today.Please be kind with responses.
2006-10-23 16:38:47 · 21 answers · asked by nerkaz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She's had a terrible life abused.by parents husbands the balck sheep of the family.We actually had an argument last wk about athe comment she made she said I am tired of living and im tired of being in pain she has some health problems diabeitis heart problems and kidney problems shes had 4 surgeries this yr.But i told she should want to live and she has so much to live for others who are terminal would trade places with her in a heart beat. She was going to church and in to GODS things and then I guess had a change of heart.I know its not about me but I love her and dont want to lose her Especially this way.
2006-10-23 17:07:49 · update #1
She took a combination of prescriotion drugs and over the counter drugs she still has not woken up and this happened earlier today.She is in the hospital and will be until furthur notice they have to see if there will be any damage to her liver which now adds to her list of illnesses.One of the dr asked if we wanted her admitted to a mental hospital I said yes she really needs help.My younger brother is completely against it.My mom is only 45
2006-10-23 17:59:01 · update #2
I am so sorry for what u r going thru.
I dont know about u but I hv bn in really bad times (depression) n hv thought of suicide but yet, I hv never really bn close to actually doing it..so I cant imagine how incredibily low someone has to feel to actually try it! I think that she will feel awful about hurting u n the family so I dont think tough love so soon is the rt answer. But dont "walk on egg shells" around her either. Gently n a lil casually talk about this with her..maybe it will help for her to open up. It can help u too. If u ignore the subject of suicide n hurt, it will just shut everyone down. My mom fought depression on n off for yrs n suicide was a fear I hd, fortunately she never tried it. My thoughts n prayers r with u. If u need an ear or a shoulder feel free to e/m me.
2006-10-23 16:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you're going through this emotional battle. My mom was 42 when she followed through with suicide. She too was struggling with depression. The only thing was, I didn't know she was so depressed. It's good that your mom has made you aware of her struggle. This way you can stay close and keep an eye on her. I would gently advise that you not back off if she seems to be doing better. It could be a facade. Do everything your doing now with expressing her value to you and more in this life. It may be a rough time for you both, but hopefully the time invested will be beneficial in the end. If she is indeed a believer I would also reccommend that you pray pray pray, with her and for her as often as you can. Hopefully, if you're unable to reach in and comfort her how she needs to be, God can take over and give her peace about all she struggles with and suffers through. Love love love- pour it out on her. Best of luck to you, and Godbless. Stay strong.
2006-10-23 19:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Oh, I am sorry you are going through this. Is she in mandatory counseling now? I believe once any person attempts suicide, they have to be in mandatory counseling.
This is not my business, but is your Mom depressed over a job, the way her life is going?
Are you Christians? Have you ever gone to church and listened to a pastor talk about Jesus? It could be that you and your Mom need to get some truth and love into your lives. She can also connect with others at church who can give her encouragement to go on and live a happy life. Fellow believers tend to lift you up and keep you going. That is what the body of Christ is there for. The world will just tear you to shreds and spit you out.
Here are some christian counseling websites you can look at.
Hope this helps you.
2006-10-23 16:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this sensitive situation, I don't think you're mother will benefit from the tough love approach. She needs to know that you love her no matter what. Depending on how your relationship is with her, if you're comfortable asking her questions about it, then a candid talk with her without judging her will benefit you both. Just know that she didn't attempt this to hurt you, when you are depressed, you're mind doesn't think the same way a rational person does. You can wait until she opens the conversation up, or if she doesn't than ask her if she would be comfortable answering some questions for you, and let her know that you don't know how to react. Be honest, but not harsh, and just remind yourself that she's probably ashamed of what has happened ...or not happened. Best Wishes !
2006-10-23 16:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you haven't already, get medical attention. I do not know the details of how she tried to commit suicide, but she may need medical attention. If you think she has taken pills or shocked herself, dial 911 or emergency and let them know she is already being treated for depression,.. they may have a special place for her to go for a while to be observed and relax (it is EXCELLENT at some hospitals,.. you would feel jealous).
211 is the number to call here in bad situations like your's,.. I do not know what number will work where you are though.
Make sure you some how get in contact with her Doctors ASAP. Tell them what is going on. Some might make you come in and prove you are who you say you are because idiots do stuff to mess with people some times.
If you can do ANYTHING this moment, DO SO!
I have been through this before. I had to fight my mom to get dangerous materials out of her hands before (weapons, pills...).
2006-10-23 16:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by sailortinkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your mother has a lot of problems. I think suicide is the most selfish thing a person could do! If it was my mom I would tell her that I was there for her, but I am so angry she would do this. The only people it hurts are the people who love you.
I would not give her all the attn she is obviously trying to get. Maybe I would try to get her some professional help!
I wish you all the best. Maybe you should talk to someone yourself, you are probabally going through a lot too!
2006-10-23 16:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesbrown 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's tough. Losing your baby is probably one of the most emotionally devastating things that can happen to a person. It happens way more then most people know because no one wants to talk about such a sad situation but he will find plenty of people he knows that have had similar tragedies. Can they try again? If yes then that's something to work towards. Hang in there, your parents need you guys to be strong.
2016-05-22 03:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about that. Let her know how you feel, which I'm pretty sure you already have. If this was my mother, I'd be like I need you here, I want you to be here when i get married and I have my own children. YOu have the right to be concerned. I don't know the complete story, but I just hope the best for you and your mother
Just be there for your mother, tell her you love her.... don't be anger with her. Good luck.
2006-10-23 16:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by CC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a terrible illness. It makes people think about suicide constantly. She probably thought she was a terrible burden on her family. Instead of feeling hurt and worrying about yourself, you need to reassure her that you love her and need her. Let her know that the family will stick by her and help her get through this illness. Talk to her Dr. She may need a more aggressive treatment like shock therapy.
2006-10-23 16:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm,
just love her, show her there are people who care. Life can be tough, but there is always a new day, even if you know that day will be full of headaches. But at least you can be alive and feel that pain. the pain of death is a sudden and quick one, kinda boring if you ask me. I look though life for the thrill, of joy, sorrow, and yes even pain. it is the thing that keeps me going every day, day after day. I tried tons of times to kill myself, not for attention but i did have a real shyty life, now i look at it a different way. just explain that to her. If she is old enough to be of the hippies, or even younger, be a goth(real, not dress up) then she'll understand.
Just be yourself, and dont let it affect how you are normally.
Good luck, and i hope she gets better.
2006-10-23 16:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Holly M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋