My 11 month old daughter cries hysterically when her Daddy is trying to spend time with her.?

Question

This has been going on since she was 5 months old. We have tried everything to get her to "want" her Daddy like she wants me. He works until 5 or 7 every afternoon, could she be mad at him for going to work? She is okay with most other people. It hurts my husband's feelings so bad. What can I do, has anyone else had a similar situation?

Oh, and she is typically much better with him when we are out doing something, like at the park or in Wal-Mart. But when we are spending time together at home as a family she will not go to him or have anything to do with him, or even let him hold her.

Answer 1

As long as you and your husband have a healthy relationship, this will come to pass. Just don't push it, you know? It's sweet that her daddy loves her and wants to spend time with her so just know it will come to pass eventually.

Answer 2

My daughter went through that, too. Not as extreme, though. She might just be tired by the time he gets home. Lots of babies only want Mommy when they're tired. Try putting her afternoon nap off until a little later so that she's more rested when Daddy gets home.

Make a big fuss when he comes down the driveway. If you're very excited about Daddy coming home, your excitement may be contagious. Also, have him sit on the floor to engage her. Maybe seeing him on her level will be more enticing. My husband comes in and lays on the floor on his belly and hides his face. My daughter runs over and climbs all over him trying to get him to turn over so she can see him. It's really cute. When he finally pops his head up she laughs and steals his hat. He chases her around and they have lots of fun.

Be patient. I'm sure she'll grow out of it eventually. Good luck!

Answer 3

babies and kids all go through periods of wanting mom or dad more than the other....
as heartbreaking as it is, it's just a normal part of life.
i imagine that sooner or later she will want daddy more than mommy and you will be the "odd man out".

just tell dad to hang in there and be sure he is making up for lost time when he is home. also, when you are home with her show her pics of daddy and talk about daddy in happy voices and stories.

my husband is military and we're VERY worried about him being away from our newborn next year for 6 months. i plan to still involve him even if he isn't there in person.

take care and i'm sure things will get better!

Answer 4

Kids go through periods when they prefer one parent over the other. This is natural. My son prefers me right now to my wife. That can change on a day to day basis and will likely reverse itself.

You could try leaving them together while you run errands a couple of times. Let them have some bonding time. What kind of interaction does he have with her? Maybe if he played around with her and did something she found amusing it might help. Kids are into balls and balloons at that age. Maybe he could spend tim rolling a ball to her?

I would make it be one on one time. Let them connect. They are going to have to get along.

To answer your question of whether or not she's mad at him....no..she's not. My wife and I both work and our kids are not mad at us for working.

Good luck

Answer 5

My husband doesn't get to spend a lot of time with our little one either because he works a lot also, but when he comes home, I make a big deal about it. When I hear him come in, I say DADDY'S HOME!! and we both run to the door and give him hugs and kisses. This not only makes my husband feel good, but it also creates excitement for my baby. Try it, pretty soon I'll bet your baby will start waiting for him to come home so she can run to her daddy for hugs and kisses.

Answer 6

comparable element right here! do no longer hardship, there's a easy on the top of the tunnel. i'm a mom of three (5,3, and 4mo.). all of them did that. it quite is complicated to get me time once you comprehend that toddler is screaming in it quite is daddy's palms. My youngest is 4 months previous and in simple terms stopped this. do no longer hardship, the toddler will quickly understand that daddy is a secure place to be too. It in simple terms takes time. i'm a SAHM too and actually want me time. Like I pronounced, I in simple terms began getting it. enable daddy carry the toddler while you're there. enable him locate the thank you to hold her, exchange her and feed her. it is a few thing they (dad and bab) want tyo artwork out. the main suitable way is with you in the different room, that way if it gets too undesirable, you are able to intrude if want be.

Answer 7

the only way your baby can communicate at this stage is by crying. Its very unlikely that the baby is "angry" at her dad for working, because I dont think she understands these concepts at such a young age.
Have you ever thought that daddy is wearing/doing something that irritates the baby? Maybe his cologne is too strong or he wears some clothing that irriates her skin. I would suggest that he has a shower and put on some smooth soft clothes before he touches her because she might be alergic to something on him

Answer 8

Since she is most likely around you more and you are a woman, and she isnt around her father much she might be more comfortable around women many babies favor either women or men depending on who they are around most of the time if she spend more time around men such as grandpa, or uncles then she would be better adjusted to her daddy when he gets home, It is nothing to worry about you just have to give her time.

Answer 9

It's just a phase, a long one, but a phase, and believe me the tables WILL turn and she will favor him over you. It happens all the time around here! Just try not to feel bad when your not the favorite anymore, because you will be again :o)

Answer 10

She's just a mama's girl and he needs to deal with it. She will warm up to him as time goes on if he is patient and doesn't hold a grudge.