I see some posts about the same subject: In short, I've been married 16 yrs and we've done everything BUT separate. Now that we are, I'm 95% sure I don't want to go back, spouse and I are going to work on ourselves a bit and see what next year brings. We need this break. I would like to go on a date and have even expressed this to my husband. He is not pleased but understands things have come to this point and if it's "what you need to do I understand" Mind you I am not taking this as "go and sleep with anyone you want" nor is it partytime for me, I have two kids, a professional career and respect myself. I do want to meet some people though, wondering if it's going to bring me back to my husband or solidify that it's finally time to move on.
Thoughts? Similar experiences?
Thanks in Advance.
2006-10-23 16:28:17 · 10 answers · asked by flipit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey I see some things has to come to an end Because I'm going through the same thing.I feel I've gaven up everything for my soon to become my X wife and now I don't know were to turn to.I would feel upset if my x would tell me shes going to see other guys to date but what can I do?I guess I would have to accept it and swallow it hard.Starting all over will probably be a good idea But I think It would be hard to have that new person fall in love with me, I just can't see it.But no matter how hard you try to work things out and it all ways seems to fail I guess you have no choice to move on. You just have to see what life brings to you.
2006-10-23 16:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only 95% sure you don't want your husband back, you better not do it. What will happen when you start dating and start comparing your husband with all the other dates. Will you then decide to stay with your husband? Will it then be too late in his mind? Is it really worth taking the risk? You have to be real with yourself. If there's still a little bit of hope that things would get better between you and your husband, then you should work on your marriage on not on dating anyone else right now.
See a marriage counselor and try to make it work. If not, then move on but do it the right way. Dating other people when you're still in a relationship is never a good idea. If you need to take some time off, then do it to spend time working on YOU. Once you've worked on you, you might realize that your relationship is worth fighting for. If not, then at that point close that chapter of your life and move on.
Good luck!
2006-10-24 01:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had been married 13 yrs. From similar experience, I can say that I have never found dating other people to be an effective way to resolve ANY issues with your spouse. In my opinion this will definitely solidify the end of your marriage.
2006-10-23 16:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you never know! but companionship is much better than isolation and by meeting new people you definately open your self up to new oppurtunities and different opinions and personallities. sometimes we get ourselves into a routine rut and burn out on the same ole thing so be adventrous and live a little, just don't forget who you are and what you stand for. good luck.
2006-10-23 17:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you're away from your husband, the better you're going to feel; take my word for it. IF you intend to eventually go back with him, I wouldn't be dating other men. It's fine to go out with friends, but like I said, when you find out how good it feels to do what you want without answering to someone, you'll drift farther apart in your marriage.
2006-10-23 16:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married for six yrs.no children.we separated.Realised can never patch back and just have to move on. now he is living with his new Australian g/f. Me going out with my ex b/f whom I have met after 10 yrs.me and my hubby(soon to be ex) had accepted each other's decision and still remain good friends...
2006-10-23 16:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise would be to put yourself in the others shoes... say you did get back together and he had been dating - how would you feel? That way you save trouble in the long run.
2006-10-23 17:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
taking a break can sometimes help BUT taking a break and dating is treading on dangerous ground emotionally more so than anything. please be careful and really consider what your doing
if you really need a break to work things out dating is not a break
2006-10-23 17:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-23 16:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by bitshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be dating until you are divorced.
2006-10-24 00:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋