When I was young I gave my mom so much grief by cutting school & hanging out with the wrong kids. Now I have a 14 year old daughter who I expected to do the same. But she really cares about her grades which I'm grateful for, but she doesn't like going out with her friends on the weekends. Don't most teenagers try & get out of their house as much as possible. I'm not in the best of health so I think she doesn't want to leave me. How do I convince her that it's ok for her to have a life of her own & not worry about me all the time.I'm so grateful to have a daughter like this but I feel like I'm holding her back from the things that teenagers do
2006-10-23 16:16:17 · 17 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im a teenager right now. && i no ur probably expecting an adult to answer you but im experiencing teenage years at the moment. i totally know where ur coming from with the whole not knowing why she doesnt want to hanggout with friends && etc. but if ur in bad health she probably thinks that the day she decides to go out with people is the day that something will go wrong. i think the problem is that she is a little insecure. she probably number one doesnt want to get in trouble with you in bad shape and all and number 2 probably feels bad about leaving you here alone when in these comditions.i understand that you feel you are holding her back. i am extremely sorry that you feel that way but i think if my mother was in ur state of conditions i would feel bad about leaving her too. so i defintly agree with your thought of her not wanting to leave you. she probably also doesnt want to put pressure on you if ur in bad health. she probably only wants the best for you and i know that u only want the best for her also. If she has a lot of friends or peers that she hangs aruond be grateful for that. because its the wurst feeling in the world to feel as if u dont have any friends. but i think shes trying to ake you her main focus instead of her friends and social life... im sorry if i didnt answer your question. but i tryed!
try to be thankful though for the relationship tha you two have just try to have fun with her when you are with. because when your gone or when shes gone your gonna regret it if you guys werent close. believe me. so just try to enjoy her && enjoy that shes around instead of seeming like you wanna push her away. the best of luck too you...♥
♥regards...c.n.t.
2006-10-23 16:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is really sweet. What a nice daughter! That being said, I think you're right. She needs to be a teenager. Maybe just talking to her about her concerns would help. If not, then maybe you could find a friend to hang out with sometimes and she would feel better leaving you with a friend than alone.
2006-10-23 23:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by cldb730 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all good luck with your health, just pray....
and be happy you have a great daughter comparing to this crazy girls out there so sleezy and dirty even starting with 12 its horrible of course she has to have contact with people why dont you invite one of her friends over or a girl from school
maybe you could have a conversation with the girls parents to invite her over like a little setup not in a bad way but just to get her out a bit
organize a little get together with the people she likes or you think would fit her.
good luck and get better
2006-10-23 23:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ev. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
list of all, cherish the fact that she cares. It is never too much for someone to care and give time, love, and attention. My Dad has been very ill,(my step-Dad, Dad none-the-less) and it has been worrying me because there is so much distance between us. Just be grateful that you have someone close by who cares.
2006-10-23 23:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know exactly what you said here, tell her that you appreciate her loyalty to you, but that you do not want to be a burden on her and want her to have friends--see them and have fun. Perhaps you are reading too much into this and she is really a home-body who enjoys the company of family, afterall there's nothing wrong with a family oriented person. :)
2006-10-23 23:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by amays068 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you pushing her to go and hang out? You should be thanking yr lucky stars to have a daughter like that! Smile, MOM!
2006-10-23 23:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with her. Ask her what kinds of thigs she likes to do. She may just be the type of person that likes to stay home. My daughter is.
Hope you feel better soon.
2006-10-23 23:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by blackrealty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's a late bloomer, I think. Just explain to her heart to heart that she can enjoy her life without worrying about her mother. Dont preassure her to go, though. Just slightly encourage her, but, she'll hate it if you nag. Good Luck!
2006-10-23 23:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by -:-vInTaGe PaSsIon-:- 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think each person's character is different ,so her life style also different with other peoples, your daughter is a introversion's girl, if she feel enjoy I think is OK.
2006-10-23 23:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Tess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She'll go out with her friends as time passes. Maybe she is just not ready yet (shy or not sure what to expect)
2006-10-23 23:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by caballero5792 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋