Whenever I make friends, it's so hard for me to keep them.
I can name so many examples... and most of the times, when I argue with someone, it's because of my horrible temper. I wish I could control it, but besides that, I just lose my friends.
They're hard to make, hard to keep. Is it just me... or is life just like that? How can I keep my friends? Am I doing something wrong?
I really wish I knew... a lot of my friends just drift away from me for the "popular crew," or whatever. I know I'm not popular, because I'm kind of an individual, and I don't like to do what other people think, and just do what I think, but I just don't understand.
2006-10-23 16:05:06 · 11 answers · asked by UnexplainablyBeautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't act mean to them or anything... we just, like I said, drift apart... sort of.
I haven't done anything mean to them, I've always been nice to them, and whenever they wanted something, I'd buy it for them because they're my friends.
2006-10-23 16:09:17 · update #1
You have to be a friend to have one.
2006-10-23 16:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just might be because of your temper. But relax, life is really like that. You gain some, you lose some. There are people who you aren't meant to get along with and even spend the rest of your life with. They come and go. A person is lucky enough to have a friend who'll be with her for a long time even if they're miles apart. But if you keep losing everything that you've gained before, something might be really wrong with you. Think it yourself.
If you really can't, go ask them but in a kind way. Ask them what went wrong and remember not to push them being your friend again. If they really like you, they'll come back. If they don't, find new ones. Who knows this time you'll find a friend that you'll really trust and treasure.
2006-10-23 16:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be around people who are individuals, independent, and can stand your hot temper. Aka people like "you." Friends that drift away from you for the "popular crew" shouldn't even be called friends. Screw the "popular crew" find real people, plenty out there.
2006-10-23 16:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by t_a_s_t_y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you know the saying , do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Try it and try to control your temper that might help. It is whats on the inside that counts. not the outer appearance. Trying to be the best you can be. and try loving your self first and the rest will follow. Try giving of your self to help others. Just be kind and speak with sincereity. you will be just fine. I wish you all best. God bless. Try asking the Lord to show you the way. He will find you a very good friend if you are sincere in your prayers. God be with you and guide you.
2006-10-23 16:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come and go very easily. The relationship, even friendship takes work on both sides. Learn to control yr temper. You can start with that.
2006-10-23 16:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so agree with 'avery" Show you can be a true friend and the rest will follow. Try joining a volunteer group that helps people less fortunate than yourself. This will develop your personality / create bonds with those people you assist and put you in touch with like minded people with whom you will truly make long-term friendships...
2006-10-23 16:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by mark2zephyr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had friends do that but, all of them still speak to me. Intrerests change, yours as well, and you must respect that your friends have new contacts. Now, as to your temper, if you went off on me, I would take myself on my way also. I would not hook up with a new crowd. Keep your temper to youself that is your problem, apoligize, and grow -up.
2006-10-23 16:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by thesilkavenger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read your own question, you have a horrible temper, you are not popular,you do not care what others think, and only do what you think. I wouldn't want to be bothered with you either, when there are more pleasant people in the world
2006-10-23 16:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
peoples natural nature to earn trust to be a friend. it is said, it takes a lifetime to have a true friend and only seconds to lose them.
2006-10-23 16:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look out for people who think like you. they are easy to pick out of the crowd.
2006-10-23 16:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Robots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋