Have you heard it? That voice that says you can't, you're not good enough, smart enough, or you really screwed that up. Where does this voice come from? Why are we so hard on ourselves?
2006-10-23 16:01:47 · 17 answers · asked by irishman 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Possibly the person that is in this type of mind set is very insecure, probably from his up bringing. Many parents are not very complimentary when it comes to there children. The reason some children have low self-esteem is because someone in their life told them that they were stupid, or will never amount to anything. When you are spoken to like that, you tend to believe it, hence start acting that way. I always find that a child raised in a positive setting doesn't seem to be hard on themselves, but instead seem to have a positive outlook on life and their accomplishments.
2006-10-23 16:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only people who have purpose in their lives are hard on themselves. It can be a good thing in moderation. But, you may have unsolved problems that bother you. You should step back and see why you feel this way. Keep a journal. Make progress with your feelings and the voice that tells you this. You are the one hearing the voice....you are also the one who can stop listening to it and in fact prove it wrong.
2006-10-23 16:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jen :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We put ourselves down for one of two reasons. We do it because we either feel like we're not good enough and EVERYONE feels that way one time or another because wherever you are there is always someone better than you or, we do it just so someone will say "you're not ugly, you're not fat, you're not worthless, you're not etc" to make ourselves feel better.
2006-10-23 16:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You internalized unworthiness. Someone or some event helped you to do this, fairly early in life. Then, it was reinforced. Basic idea: Knock yourself before something else knocks you. You believe you will fail. No trying=no chance of failure.
I am sorry that I don't know who said this (QUOTE), for sure. It is enough that it was said.
"Your reach should always exceed your grasp." Usually, I don't like the use of should, but I think it is appropirate, here.
2006-10-23 16:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother raised me up to believe that all things are possible, that I could be anything that I wanted to be, that I could have anything that was in my reach, and that nothing beats a failer but a try. I taught my children's that same things that was taught to me and they are very successful in life. People put them self down because they was brought up in a trouble home or they were all ways put down to think that they will never amount to anything or they were always consider as bad kids and call stupid, dumb, fools, and this made them insecure and gave the low self exteem. they were not brought up in a positive setting.
2006-10-23 17:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by I am women 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe its because we hate the changes in ourselves yet we feel to much like quitting to care.Shared my son's birthday tonight with his father first time in 35 years.I came hope in tears why had i gave up i'd have it made.Why didn't he look at me more well hell girl you weigh150 more pounds.The harder my life gets the more i hate myself. when you have an answer i need to read it,because i am to the point of seeing a shrink
2006-10-23 16:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we've spent so long letting ourselves be dependent on validation from others (like from the infancy --as in you good little boy) so when we don't get it....we feel bad.
2006-10-23 16:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by noxturnxonxred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the voice in inside our head, it's our parent voice, that's the way I feel, when my voice tells me that I am stupid.
2006-10-23 16:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Aria 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people put themselves down in front of others because they are looking for compliments or for some sort of affirmation from others.
2006-10-23 16:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The voice you are talking about is ego.
Until you live and function from your Heart; ego will continue to be your master.
2006-10-23 16:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by aldiaz2wheare 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋