A husband moves out of the family home and previously got busted?

Question

having an affair couple months before decides he no longer wants to be married. Both spouses seem unhappy but he does not want to talk about it or answer any questions. How do you just throw in the towel when it comes to your family? Don't you owe to them to at least give it one try especially since they've been married 16 years.

Answer 1

This is hard to answer. It depends on the situation.

Both parties need to sit down and talk about it. Yes I understand the husband is not talking but still try to talk about it as adults. Some times both parties can decide to work it out and stay together.

If you are saying stay together for the child(ren)'s sake then it could make things worse all the way around especially if both parents are unhappy together. If there are lots of fights taking place when and where the child(ren) can hear them that really doesn't help the child(ren). And if husband has cheated before then he might cheat again. Which would cause more fights and sometimes fights get physical which means one of the parents could end up in the hospital and the other in jail. How does that help the child(ren) especially if they see this behavior?

Both parties need to decide what is in the best interests of all.

Answer 2

you would think that after any length of time like that, that one would want to try to reconcile but speaking from experience of a similar situation and 14 years together the wife refused to have any reconciliation, considered me a liar and said the whole 14 yrs was a lie as far as she was concerned. but thats ok, after much pain and hurt I'm slowly healing and learning that it takes two even though she decided to go the opposite direction and take up another life with someone else only after two months of seperation.she didn't seem to care about the family aspect ,only concerned for her satisfaction. Unfortunetly some people are just selfish that way. If there are children involved the best we can do is bear through it and do whats right for the children after all god gave us the oppurtunity to be parents and we can't just quit because times get rough.however in todays society there are to many people that don't take they're wedding vows serious enough any more or the oath that they promise to god. and from my own experience i know how easy it is to get all wrapped up in the world and what its like to rely on our human (so called friends) and follow their advice instead of listening to the only one who knows the real answer to everything. and when we make these mistakes sometimes we are blessed and things will work out and then sometimes they don't and we live with the consequences.good luck and hope things work out, remember though no matter what there is a reason for everything and a purpose, even though we don't understand why.

Answer 3

they don't want to talk about it, to talk would mean they would have to be accountable, and take responsibility for what they have done.doesn't matter the amount of time invested in the marriage, they no longer value us, or care about how it hurts us and the family, all they care about is the other woman. we can't change others or what their choices are. why ask questions, he no longer wants you, and as much as it hurts we sometimes just need to move on and let what ever will be just be, seems to me that the more questions we ask about why the more we set ourselves up to be hurt, this is a man who will only lay the blame on you, adding insult to an already injured person. my husband of 10 years left christmas day 3 years ago, i too thought i deserved an explanation, when i got it, it was so hurtful and painful that i wished i had never asked why. it has very little to do with you and all to do with him and the other woman, and you can't reason with them, as their mind is made up, and the more you try to talk to them, the worse you will feel.

Answer 4

I think you both need to figure out if the marriage is worth saving and not just one of you want to save it, it will take both of you I am personal going though the same thing right now after finding out my husband had a two year affair , it is taking alot of councling sole searching and not sure if I will every trust him again but we both think it is worth trying one more time. good luck

Answer 5

When your other half,behaves like a louse.Walks out of the family home and decides he's going to start a new life,that does'nt include you.Not much help,but sue him for every penny you can squeeze out of him.Make his life miserable.He may like the idea of courting miss wonderful.She'll soon tire of romance,when the pangs of hunger grip.Make his life hell,he's taken the best years of your life.Don't let him forget

Answer 6

Some Boys not men think that they want to be single & don't owe the women they devastated anything at all. & thye call you a "B" when you try to reason with them. Thats why I finally gave up.